Just had a very uncomfortable conversation with a partner. I have some time off booked to go to my brother’s wedding (I’m the best man). We were chatting and I mentioned that my brother’s future husband is so nice and really a great guy, and we already consider him a member of our family. Partner’s tone immediately shifts and as we’re ending the call he says, “Okay, enjoy the time with your family at the civil ceremony.” Like… girl you live in California, you cannot be this backward.

Vacation ideas for Thanksgiving? Six of us (ages 25 to 60) and everyone’s vaccinated. Thought about going to the Caribbean but I guess it’s the wet/hurricane season at that time. We’d be traveling from LA and Chicago and it’s only for a week if that helps. Any places you’ve enjoyed during late November?

What are some essential travel items to request for Christmas/Birthday from family? Also, any recommendations on a good, sturdy, cute briefcase for women?

Someone I’ve started seeing uses they/them pronouns. I’m trying my best but still feel like I make mistakes. When I want to address them is it ok to say how are you or should I say how are they?

What do you tell your CEO who wants ROI on PR campaigns?

Is it cool to use slang when with co workers?

A partner I work for keeps asking for ETA's on assignments I have already submitted to the senior associate on the deal for review. Does it sound like I'm throwing the senior associate under the bus if I say I have already submitted to senior associate and am waiting for feedback? I feel like the partner will get upset at me even more if my answer sounds like I haven't submitted the assignment to the senior associate yet.

My manager micro manages everything I do, and I’m losing my mind. Wanted to see how any of you have handled a manager like this, and get some advice on how to tell them to literally stop.

What to wear for the EY holiday party tomorrow?

Love how BS credit score is. Got my score up to 800 last month only to go on vacation so my credit utilization went up to 8% due to the increased spending and my score dropped 35 points because I didn’t immediately pay the balance after charging the purchases. I always pay my balance in full each month and have never missed a payment, how is 8% credit utilization determined to be that big of a risk that my score got immediately wrecked, I don’t understand

Starting a new fully remote role Monday with a leader that has never had their own admin, let alone an exec assistant. Any suggestions for developing the relationship or training them to properly use an exec assistant?

I don’t care what you got going on. Wearing a back pack with a suit is not the move.

Hello folks,

I am new to fishbowl and recently got an offer from Publicis Sapient for a senior associate. They are offering $136k with unlimited pto benefits. As I am from the industry and haven't heard about this company before, I would like some comments or thoughts about working for this company? How do they invest in their employees (like pay raise, promotions, etc)?

Anyone in Vancouver want a Programmer Analyst role doing data conversion from Oracle into WD? UBC is a great employer that pays well for Vancouver / Canada and the work is remote, though you have to be in Canada. 4 weeks vacation and benefits start on day 1

How to ask for a raise when you have more responsibility ?
Is it normal for people to ask for a raise when more responsibility/task fall under them? My company is going through separation and unfortunately my team is the one getting separated, I have to take on responsibility of another 3 people and continue to deliver the same after separation… how will you start this conversation with your manager ? Thanks in advance.

hiya fishes. happy friday! sorry if this isnt the right bowl, but this is in regards to vacation time. i have an interview process starting next week, and wondering when it would be good to mention i would be OOO between the middle of the month in september? its for a week. im unsure if i can twist this to have a start date once im back. going back and forth on being transparent vs. mentioning it later on. thoughts?

Do we observe a holiday on 1st November?

Hooked up with a manager form different line of service and now I came to know he is joining my team.

Ladies, what heels / brands do you recommend for work? Looking for shoes I can walk around in (mostly) comfortably

Hey habibis expats! The market in Dubai is obscure when it comes to compensation and benefits. I suggest we add clarity by posting salaries, role/position and years of experience here and anything else you want to add such as benefits. I’ll start:

- Industry: tech
- Role: finance manager
- YOE: 5 years
- Comp: 270k aed/year + 5% bonus
- Other benefits: work from Europe/US 1 month/year, 30 vacation days

Let's start a thread to highlight which industries and/or companies are doing right by their employees this holiday season. Share your job title and what kind of year-end bonus you are getting. (Feel free to share your company's name if you are comfortable doing that)

Which area is kpmg GS office located in bangalore? I am looking for accommodation but HR just sent a basic on boarding mail.

Kindly help me with this

just got a full time graphic design job. is there any reason why using the work-provided adobe creative cloud account for personal use is a bad idea? like privacy or something? i’m thinking of canceling my personal subscription and saving some money.

I’m looking for examples of accessible / ADA-compliant color palettes. Not a color palette builder tool, but a gallery of compliant color palettes I can use for inspiration. Please share your favorites here. Thanks!

Some recruiter in Accenture lined me up for an interview for a role which was not in my skillset ( by saying that this is just an evaluation exercise and they will map me to the right role) and obviously I got rejected. Now I see that I am not eligible to apply the role which I was targeting for the next 6 months. Any idea how can I get this escalated so that the recruiter ( Accenture employee) should at least be careful in future before fooling a noob like me?

Hello folks,

What is good package for sap basis folks?
Package in range of 25-30 lpa is possible for 9yoe in service based companies?

How common is it for a firm to contribute to an HSA on an employee’s behalf, and what is the largest contribution you’ve seen that an employer gives?

Inflation check @9% 🫡

Taxation and over-regulation are huge problems in California. Is the experience similar in other recreational states?

Aside from just time and experience, is there anything I can actively do to advance in my career and get more responsibility / client interaction? I’m a first year

Who hires junior strategists? Where should I start looking? I’m loving my planning internship right now, but I want to apply elsewhere in case I don’t get an offer, but I’m not seeing anything open.

Offered a role at Senior Consultant actuarial in Netherlands (Amsterdam). Any ideas on salary as seems low compared to London?

Received an offer for Director of BD comp. What's the typical base for a private clinical stage company?

I’m having trouble finding resources on operational due diligence - I’m trying to study for an interview and can’t seem to find a lot of good things online about it. Any advice / leads?

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

are there any layoff news in jpmc considering US recession?

I keep hearing LGBTQ+ being referred to as “ The Alphabet Mafia”. I love this. I motion to fully embrace this trend by the community. All in favor, say “I”.

Any Boston folks?

Anyone in New York City that can recommend queer legal communities other than just Lambda (which is great! Just want to broaden networking/community opportunities)

Any gay folks who are the only gay person? I am the only lawyer for my company and the only gay person too.

My partner (also an attorney) is getting top surgery next month, and it will be an inpatient procedure. Any thoughts on how to explain to my firm that I will be out of touch for a day or two without getting too far into the weeds? Should I just say surgery? That seems dramatic.

We all just grindin (work) or why so quiet?

What should I be reading or researching? First gen lawyer here, always been small firm. I’m at a 2 attorney firm now and was just approached about becoming a partner. The boss wants to clean up the books so I can review them and we can discuss. Other than professional connections, I have no idea where to turn for info/insight. I’m definitely interested, but obviously this is a big decision, so I don’t think a “partner? Sure, I’m in” is appropriate.

Anyone in LA want to go hike to the sunset at Wildwood Canyon today. Thinking be there by 4.. sunset is close to 6pm

How’s the LGBTQ community in other places. I’m in Los Angeles and I find it difficult to connect.

Happy Thanksgiving all!

For whatever reason, there are a ton of gay lawyers in Baltimore. On a regular basis,I've noticed myself, opposing counsel, and the judge are all gay. Anyone else experience this where they live?

Any Tampa Bay people in this bowl?? 😊

My office knows that I recently came out of the closet to my family- which is fine, but making me feel young. Feeling the need to overcompensate as a result.

I have to tell my parents that I got engaged this weekend. They haven’t been taking the coming out well over the last year (i.e have isolated themselves from their community, screaming and crying when I’m on the phone with mom, dad hasn’t spoken to me since July). I’m incredibly nervous about this conversation. Going to have it in about two hours. Any words of advice?

Where’s my trans & nonbinary fam at?

What can law firms do to improve lgbtq numbers? Beyond the meaningless empty stuff they do now.

Hi gay lawyers in Boston! How are you all holding up during the pandemic?

At a small firm, but I have another gay associate in my practice "group" super excited.

Started at my first real firm job after quitting a nonprofit and I’m loving the new firm! But I’m the only one with pronouns in my email signature… should I bring this up? I think everyone here is cis but it would signal inclusion when we send emails, no?

Not me applying for admission in California to go help free Britney…