Just discovering RSD after being diagnosed as an adult. I feel like SO MUCH of my life has been impacted by this and I just never had a name for it. At work if someone gives me negative or constructive feedback it can feel like a punch in the chest even if I know it's not personal. Makes romantic relationships so hard too. What do you do to handle it especially at work?

Honest question here-hw do I work better with Indians who come over frm India(on-site) to client?My patience with them is at an all time low since they jst dnt gt the methodology & hate owning anythng

I don’t drink any alcohol. How does this impact camaraderie within the firm and ultimately with clients?

What's a guilty pleasure you indulge in at work?

How do you deal with ADD and being able to clearly explain your ideas? Are meds the answer? Really don’t want to do that. Already in therapy. Plz help.

I have a hard time answering why I’m looking to leave my current employer. The truth is they don’t treat their people well and I want to be respected. How do I answer this question without making it seem like I’m bad mouthing my employer?

I think there should be more males caretakers in this world. Some of my clients just feel more comfortable with a guy and it's kind of sad how often they say I'm the only male they could find.

Does anybody else get that anxious feeling in their chest when their workload starts to pile up? When my to-do list fills up and the timelines start to get tight I really start to seize up and I think this is how I’m going to have a heart attack in my 20s.

I, a childless woman who does not plan to have kids, am jealous of the parental leave parents get to take from work from choosing to have a child (a big life event). I 100% understand that they are working in a different way by taking care of the baby and being deliriously worn out in the process, but it makes me sort of jealous that unless I have a kid there is no life event that I can take ~3 months away from work to focus on and enjoy, plus have my hours prorated and a job to come back to.

I have one month left to finish my thesis. I know, I’ve screwed up. Anxiety got the best of me. Is there still hope?

What are your opinions on prenatal genetic testing? Would you recommend doing it? I’m very hesitant about taking it

New to the bowl but looking for an accountability community.

This morning I did 30 minutes of cardio and 50 minutes of upper body strength training.

Anybody else in the banking sector and feel things have been so much more hectic since covid?

Wish apps like BetterHelp were free. I can’t afford healthcare or therapy (I’m unemployed, and yes, I’ve tried seeking pro bono therapy options — no place anywhere nearby offers it.) I really need a therapist I can talk to on at least a weekly basis to just unpack so much that’s bogging me down to the point of being unable to function some days, but it’s just so cost prohibitive! What sucks is everyone assumes this career hands you median wages on a platter but I’m worse off than I’ve ever been.

Anyone dealt with a Christian parent who has been backsliding since the pandemic? Is this common? And how did you deal with it?

I’m my partners only associate and I went on parental leave two weeks ago. I feel horrible for leaving him to handle our cases alone, but am trying to focus on my wife and new baby. That being said, should I still offer to handle minor matters that come in to ease the workload off my boss? He’s been super cool during my entire leave, so I don’t feel pressured to one bit.

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Any recommendations on a good therapist who can deal with issues around general anxiety, attachment, motivation etc. Looking for someone with credentials but can also act as a bit of a life coach.

Thanks in advance.

At my uncles wedding in Madrid I remember lying down on the grass in the courtyard after their first dance and crying, my Dad came and saw me, laid down in his suit beside me and asked what was wrong.

“I know my boyfriend wouldn’t dance with me like that at our wedding”

And we just lay there as I cried, and then got up. Had a drink.

Said boyfriend left years ago, and now I have a wonderful man who just asked me what type of dance lessons I want for our wedding next year.

Don’t give up.

Question for outpatient PCP’s. How is everyone handling new patients if you have switched to telemedicine due to COVID?

M fish - is there anyway to defer an offer for medical reasons? I expect not but just curious. Have had a wholly unexpected situation arise and am slated to start in 6 weeks.

Hello Fishes,
I have 10 yrs. Of exp. In IT industry. Working on swift, shell/perl programming with an investment banking firm.
I am looking to upskill and that is why thinking to get a post graduate degree in data science and look for related jobs.
Is there anyone who has similar kind of experience?
Can you suggest which courses are good to enter into data science and what benefit it will bring to me?
Also, is it a wise decision to move into a new area (data science) at this level.of exp?

Next week - waiting for my onsite interview results. Please send me good vibes! Very anxious.

Is there a risk of accepting a role with Upstart currently? I seen a 7% layoff recently for hourly employees but I would be salaried. I am well aware it’s a risk in tech overall right now but curious on thoughts thanks!

When does cognizant roll out offer letters after submitting cdf1 form? Is Diwali delaying the roll out of the offer letter? I submitted cdf1 on 21st October.

I cleared Accenture interview and today got an email to upload documents on their portal. Also, got a call from HR and she asked about the salary expectations and other details. And few minutes later I found that my profile has been put on hold.

question is, they will negotiate with me or they have rejected my profile ?

How can I join JPM in their finance division? I am recent B.Com(H) graduate, what skills do I need to have? And what is the interview process?

Anybody knows ITA M3 salary for Houston and Austin?

No one wants to be “that account guy”. What’s that phrase mean to you? How do you avoid that label?

Hello People,

I need some help. I have 3 YOE.
Package I told I am expecting is 8.5lpa
Recently I have been looking for a job switch. I have recieved an offer from a startup company whose client is hpe. HR round was taken by a HPE manager too. They told they have 25-30 employees in hpe. They have other clients like Deloitte, PWC .
He told after 6-8 months of performance I can be in direct payroll with HPE.
So is it a good idea to join ?
Or shall I look for other jobs ? Please help ..

Can you guys advise me if a salary of 150 K CAD before tax is good for a 3 member family? It is in Quebec and we will be shifting from India to Canada with that.

What events would Toronto folks recommend for New Year’s Eve? New to the city and trying to plan it ahead

Are there actually tax cuts switching from home office in NYC to Hoboken?

My boyfriend has been playing duets with a neighbor of ours for the past ~8 months. His wife is due to have a baby girl in a week. What might be a nice gift? We don’t know her that well so want to play it safe!

Does anyone know if Uber drivers can see if we are sharing a ride with someone? Not splitting the cost, but having someone else watch your trip home?

So I have just left my Consultant role in a finance company to move to a Account Executive role at a ftse250 tech company. All good…unfortunately today i received a letter from my old company saying im due to repay them £4.4k in training costs and guaranteed commission etc. How should I respond?

Hi All, I just joined and need your help with your likes so that I can be helpful to all. Thankyou

So today was my first day on a stimulant (diagnosed as an adult), and everyone says its suppose to feel like *boom* magic, or normal (?) , I guess. Knowing that is figurative, what should I actually be expecting? I feel mostly the same, I think, though I came in and actually did started my work today. But I mean, somedays I do that...I just don't want to psyche myself out if I'm expecting too much. Or pscyhe myself in if I actually might not be experiencing what I should.

Just here to say I’m so thankful we have this safe space. People who aren’t diagnosed generally have misconceptions about ADHD and its symptoms, and I’m so grateful we have this bowl to seek help, learn from one another, and sometimes just vent! With all the negativity in the world, this bowl is that one ray of sunshine I so desperately need, so thank you everyone for what you have done and what you’ll continue to do!

What are some habits that inhibit you from being successful at your job?

I keep starting huge projects or hobbies and being intensely into it for about 10 days/2 weeks, after which I forget about it and the project just lays around my house for months until I get interested in it again or I toss it out/donate it. It was fine when I was living alone but my partner is seriously frustrated with how messy the house gets and how much I spend on supplies for these things. How can I be less impulsive OR how can I stay motivated past the 10 day mark?? TIA

I have tried absolutely everything I can think of to limit distractions during the work day and none of it has worked. Working from home has only made it 100 times worse because now I know there are other more interesting things to be distracted by all around me. What do you do to hold focus during working hours? What will get me to be able to work for longer than 35 minutes without getting distracted?

Can you cut 18mg Delmosart (i.e. Concerta) to get 2x 9mg?

Has anyone gotten to the point where it is physically painful to try and concentrate? Not sure what to do at this point; had Ritalin for a bit, but I adjusted in like 10 days before the benefits went away. Now I’m scared I’ll just keep getting worse

What are your best tools for self-motivation at work? There are days when it takes a huge amount of effort for me to get started and in the groove and I'm looking for ways to make work days easier.

Anyone had luck finding a good therapist who actually understands ADHD? Getting advice like "try taking a walk every day" and "practice these breathing exercises" is driving me crazy. I need actual solutions and shit, not just platitudes and internet worksheets.

How do you complete the last parts of slideware? Boring cleanup, numbers consistency, spelling etc (the ocd factors)?

Has anyone tried lsd, shrooms, molly and felt some difference?I definitely think it always has some impact on me

Anybody else inattentive type? What are people’s strategies for getting up and getting going first thing? I can be laser-focused once I get on task, but it’s a real struggle to start my day. Any tips?

Has anyone hired an assistant ( virtual or otherwise) to help them with managing their life? Any tips/tricks/stories? I’m done with myself…..

Does anyone with adhd ever feel like they just can’t wake up? I feel so lazy but I want to be so productive. Also, lately when I take my medicine I can’t even focus on work just other things.

Hey fellow ADHD professionals. Struggling with my focus and memory/retention. I takes notes, make lists, and this helps with getting tasks completed. But, for example, I cant recall someones name that was just given to me, or the name of a place. Any suggestions?

Btw this group is awesome!!

Does anyone else suffer with paralysis? Mine is so bad I don’t even know what to do anymore. In example, something as simple as responding to a text with a heart and a “happy thanksgiving to you too” was all I needed to do and I didn’t. Now it’s Sunday and I feel awful responding so late. I’m procrastinating with life errands and feeling the burn. I do the biggest bare minimum at work and I’m pretty sure people are started to notice. Everything is making my anxiety and overthinking worse.

What kinds of meds are you on to help with ADHD?

It’s looking like my job is gonna start asking us to return to the office. We have an open office plan and before we wfh FT I would save all my work for my telework days bc I can’t get shit done in the office. I’m having major anxiety about them making this decision. I know I’m not alone that people don’t want to return to the office. My ADHD and the open office just makes working from the office a nightmare and I’m feeling really nervous and kind of resentful.