Just discovering RSD after being diagnosed as an adult. I feel like SO MUCH of my life has been impacted by this and I just never had a name for it. At work if someone gives me negative or constructive feedback it can feel like a punch in the chest even if I know it's not personal. Makes romantic relationships so hard too. What do you do to handle it especially at work?

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For me, I’ve been lucky enough to be able to choose a career where I’m somewhat personally disassociated from my work. It’s not what I went to college for and I don’t have a lot of personal equity and ego tied up in whether I succeed or fail. Maybe taking steps to see work as what you do rather than who you are could help distance yourself from the outsized effects of the criticism.

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I work in IT. My company provides IT services for other companies. Having a reactive (vs proactive) role with a clear metrics that hinge on the application of a clear skill set helps in my opinion.

I am right there with you. I was not diagnosed until age 31 and then so many things made sense. Honestly I just think its something that comes with age and time. The older you get, the better you get at accepting criticism and not taking it so personally.

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