I make close to 20 LPA but I right now live in a PG separately away from my parents and they're dependant on me. I got this job after a layoff and had to take a paycut, didn't have a lot of savings so had to accept it. While I'm loan free, my parents keep pressurising me saying I need to earn more for marriage reasons, saving blah blah but market is cooked right now and I'm sde 2.

How do I explain all this to them? They're like switch jobs within the next 6 months and I feel like it's unfair

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If u want to settle, don't think of marriage right now. Push for another 2 to 3 years. Provide basic things to parents. Rest put in investments. Find working partner later. If parents are living in rented house, manage to get lease property in few months for them to reduce rent burden. Anyone can give suggestions free of cost. Choose wisely.

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20lpa at 25 years is very good salary. Don't get married for atleast 3 more years. If you get married your expenses are going to increase & you are not going to support your parents & siblings same way.

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What's your age? Are your parents religious and conservative?

I made the same mistake. I got married at 26 due to pressure from my parents, and I can’t express how much I regret that decision. Focus on earning well, ignore society’s expectations, and leave India as soon as possible if you get the chance. Respect your parents, but don’t blindly follow their advice.

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