I want to start by saying I am extremely grateful to be 14 weeks pregnant with clean nipts results. However in the spring i had a miscarriage at 9 weeks and I still finding myself overwhelmed with grief. Again i am so grateful to be in a “safe” zone but i bounce from feeling anxiety to sadness. I also feel guilty because when i was pregnant three years ago with my first i was so excited and probably gave her a better gestational period. Has anyone navigated pregnancy after loss that could share

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I had a baby, lost a few, then had another. Here’s the jist for me personally: timing was actually perfect. Did I over-test to look for the two lines well into the second trimester illogically? Yes. Did I cry a lot? Yes.

But now I have a healthy baby and maybe I was just nervous because I knew how much it meant to me. And because of that, I will always be able to look my babies in the eyes and think about how badly I wanted them.

For that I am lucky.

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Also just get a therapist now and start working through it. It helps in postpartum land to not have to explain it.

That sounds completely normal — be kind to yourself ❤️. Grief and gratitude can coexist, especially after a loss. Many moms in your position describe pregnancy after miscarriage as “holding joy in one hand and fear in the other.” You’re doing your best, and that’s what your baby needs most.

If it helps, focusing on gentle movement, balanced nutrition, and talking openly about your emotions (with a counselor or support group) can ease some of the anxiety. Some wellness programs, like those offered through clinics such as Valley Medical Weight Loss
, even provide holistic guidance for hormonal balance and overall wellbeing during pregnancy recovery phases.

You deserve peace and compassion while growing this new life — it’s okay to feel everything at once. 🌷

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Share some tips? I dont want to feel this way my entire pregnancy, its not fair to the baby

I think it’s ok to feel however you do now and when the baby comes, focus on that baby. I’m not sure you ever get over the loss, you just learn to coexist with it and enjoy the happy times with the current pregnancy.

I lost my first at 6-7 weeks, so when we got pregnant again it was really hard. We didn’t really start to experience the happiness of pregnancy until after the anatomy scan. That’s when we finally started planning the nursery and a baby moon, etc. Once I could feel her kick it got easier as well. She’s 4 now.

Consider joining the Pregnancy After Loss Reddit community. I found it supportive to post and read in a group dealing with the same anxieties.

I've never had a miscarriage but people around me have and it made me paranoid about the possibility of losing this child. I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant and still have moments where I worry about losing the baby. It helps to talk to friends have are mothers / are also pregnant. I find that talking about my fears whenever they arise helps me to be calm and feel happy again (without alarming my husband).

One of my favorite sayings is "both things can be true"- you can both be extremely devastated for losing one baby while simultaneously being happy grateful and excited about your baby who is on the way. Don't judge yourself for how you feel. Allow yourself to cry one day and laugh the next. It's all normal. I'm so sorry for your loss. And congrats on the one on the way ❤️❤️

There’s an amazing community called The Worst Girl Gang in the World. Definitely check them out. You can’t go through this alone. It’s normal to feel all these mixed feelings. Congratulations. An Easter baby.

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