I was a very different person in college. After an unfortunate event, I turned into a sour and rude person. I’m blunt and honest (maybe too honest), but realized this behavior may have...

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Make amends. I did so recently, just telling people that even though things may have gotten weird between us, that I appreciated their influence in my life and I wanted them to know that, even if we're never in contact again.
Huge, years-long weight off of my shoulders. Really needed to be the person I am now with people I've known in the past.

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One of the notes I sent:
Hey ____, I apologise for how contextless this is but I just realized that I'd hate nothing more than for you to think I never saw your value in my life. Because I really did, not that I would have expressed it openly in the moments where I thought I had to prove my pride. And I still do see that incredible value, even if we'll never be in regular contact again. I'm really sorry it took me so long to say that without any qualifications. Hope you're doing well.

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..led to burnt bridges, resentment, and bad relationships. I learned from my mistakes, and realized that I’m a different person now. I worry about whether that outlook on life I had in college will hurt me in the future. I’m not sure what to do, and have been anxious about it for a few years now. Does anyone have any advice, thoughts?

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People are more forgiving and empathetic than I give them credit for

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Take an honest inventory of who you hurt and then make amends to all of them

How would you go about doing that? Wouldn’t that just reopen the conflict?

I sent a note. Not to reopen the conflict, just an apology for letting pride get in the way of how I treated people close to me, and wishing them well.

Thanks everyone. Yeah, my pride has gotten in the way, especially because I felt that my behavior was justified due to my circumstances. This really helps, and I appreciate you help

This is a great post and I really feel you. You can grown and move from this.

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