I’ve suffered from workaholism for a long time. Thanks to a lot of great self help books and therapy, I’m no longer putting work on a pedestal and I’m spending a lot more time on self care and my marriage. But, unfortunately, I am now getting withdrawals, because my body is used to the daily adrenaline of throwing myself into work. It’s this terrible feeling of like anguish/unease in my gut, but I don’t have anything I’m worried about- it’s like my body wants to find something to worry about.

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This is a sign of great progress! Time to rewire. I recommend a combination of 1. channeling your energy into safe, physically demanding activities like exercise (running, weight lifting, hiking, climbing, etc) to “flush out” the stress hormones that your body is used to overproducing and 2. occasionally taking a few seconds, minutes, whatever you can tolerate to sit with the that gut feeling. What does it want for you? How has it helped you before? Do you still need its help? Create a relationship with it so you can start to heal that part of yourself.

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I realize also I have really mentally put up walls around interacting with any art or music with emotional significance because I’m terrified of triggering more anxiety but I think I need to in order to be a fully feeling person.

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