This week, I received a letter in the mail from a Catholic church in SC. So apparently my ex is trying to get our marriage annulled. We have been divorced for 20 years now. The letter said they wanted to ask me general questions about our marriage. I really don't want to talk to anybody about my past relationship with my ex. The letter said they could issue a subpoena to make me comply. Not sure why she is doing this? She remarried and had a child. So not sure what she has to gain by this? Cont.

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

Just got a $125 gap gift card in the mail from EY for having a child. Though QR code doesn't work.

Anyone else receive this from EY?

I am 34/f pakistani widow with kids...why are desi guys scared of marrying widows and women with kids?

How old were you when you first took a blue pill/viagra? Currently 26 and a buddy doesn’t stop raving about it, tempted but feels too young to try?

Do you consider your in-laws family? For example, if your spouse’s sibling has children, do you consider those kids as your family or your spouse’s family?

Anybody taken adhd meds while pregnant? Or quit because you were pregnant? How did work go?

Hi Fishes,
I have just joined an organization and agreed for night shift. I thought I could manage it as I have done it earlier.
I realized that it wouldn't suit now as ! see a lot of backlash from my 2yrs old boy. I have a feeling that it might have a wrong impact on him. I don't want to continue this timings now. I am less than a month here. How should I approach? should resign and look for opportunities again, lil afraid as I see slowdown news more frequently nowadays.
Can afford LOP 3-6m

My pregnant sister thought she had COVID and her OBGYN told her it wasn't her problem!!

Does anyone have feedback or recommendations on robo cleaners in India? Thinking is sending one to family. With lockdown mom getting tired of cleaning by herself.

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

I have got an offer based in Boblingen, Germany with 60k euro as fixed. Will it be enough for a couple with a 3 year old kid ? My major expense would be accommodation, groceries, kid’s school and transportation. Please do let me know your valuable inputs. TIA

What do you wish on your ex?

How open are mental health discussions in your families? Whether it be talking about your struggles or suggesting therapy to family members? Anyone done it successfully and mind sharing ideas here?

Does anyone wants to chat with me. I’m almost dead of boredom and I’m in need to new friends. 🥺.

Currently going through the hiring process for a role in San Francisco. They told me the starting base was $110K, but this sounds like pennies in a city like San Francisco! I am concerned that if I make it through I’ll basically be poor in such an expensive city, not to mention the taxes. I also have a baby so child care I am sure is expensive. Not sure if it would make sense. Advice?

Hello fishes
Work a CTC of 30LPA, JL6, is it worth to go onsite like Canada or uk or Australia asking with a wife and kid?
What works be the onsite salary for JL6? Few posts i read days 42k, few other posts mention 110k..
Any one has clarity on this this?

Man, "What? I'm in a meeting?"
Woman, "Did you leave the refrigerator door open again?"
Man, "I can't right now I'm in a meeting, can you close it"
Woman, "Please, make sure it's shut, how many times do I have to tell you. My breast milk is in there, I'm already taking care of one child I don't need another. I'm not your mother!"
Planner,"Hey man, we wanted to tell you but I guess you couldn't hear us. Your camera was off but you weren't on mute.'

Has anyone cheated on their partner, felt horrible from the guilt, confessed to them and then managed to still save the relationship? Or is cheating something no one gets over ever?

I am planning to move to Allentown area in PA with my family. Please suggest good suburbs near to this city.

Have a really good relationship with current company, but got an amazing offer and very likely gonna leave (signed the offer, waiting for all the background checks to come back). How do you tell your boss you are leaving the company (if boss is not a dick lol) and not ruin relationship?

Hi,

I've 4+ years of experience as a Frontend developer (React/Angular). I'm currently serving notice period.

Could you please refer me if there is an opening related to my tech stack?

I was called into HR because a coworker overheard a conversation between me and another colleague taking about cable/streaming shows that we watched or recorded. I mentioned that I recorded a few true-crime shows. My colleague jokingly said, "I hope I'm not on your hit-list!". I replied, "Not anymore." HR pulled me in to say a coworker complained about me talking about hit-lists, and they were now scared. HR wouldn't say who complained, so do I have a right to ask about the resolution to this?

I've just started Athletic Greens is anyone else trying this? Did it help your health?

Who here has pitched an idea only to be told that it's a dumb one but then you see a commercial and it's your idea?

How awesome in Fishbowl?

Last song you listened to.. go!

Hi, Can someone guide me which product based companies are good for a linux administrator with 4+ years experience. It will be helpful to move forward with clarity.

I will be moving to Australia from the US in a couple of months. I was wondering what would be the best way for me to transfer the money in the US bank account to Australia? Also what are some of the good banks that allow opening of accounts when the individual is not in Australia? Thank you for the help!

Just had my discovery flight and I’ve been wanting to go for my PPL for a while, just not sure I can justify the 15k or so investment in my current financial situation. Would it be really bad to spread my lesson over a period of a few years?

Who uses Oracle and why do people like it? I’ve seen mostly Workday and SAP so curious why people still choose Oracle HCM

When I go client side, I will demand that all decks sent to me MUST use Goudy Stout font at all times

Any 🐠 working in Montreal or have worked there before? Thinking of relocating from Toronto and curious to hear about the type of work being done / how the consulting community is over there.

What is everyone's views on MBA's? I'm looking at man roles, especially MBB but am not able to get in due to lack of an MBA.

Are there opportunities to get into these top tier firms without an MBA. I'm ex Deloitte but seems like that's not worth much these days haha

Any good recommendations on home (single family, 2-storeyed) security camera systems?

I think I’m depressed.

Long story short, I burned out. Anyone who recovered from deep, deep career setbacks or failures - share tips?

Has anyone cheated on their partner, felt horrible from the guilt, confessed to them and then managed to still save the relationship? Or is cheating something no one gets over ever?

When did you decide to get medicated? I have what I’d call “high functioning” depression and anxiety. See a therapist and all, but still deal with lows that seem hard to overcome for weeks on end - losing interest, hard to focus on work, sleeping difficulties, etc. Hard to tell when to make that decision!

Starting a new project tomorrow and I feel completely overwhelmed. Already feel burnt out from the past couple of projects I’ve been on... when is it time to call it quits?

I tried so hard today to finish all my errands and read and even worked out. And I'm taking medication and keeping my diet healthy. But today I realized I don't have anyone to talk to anymore when this image of me hanging keep popping up in my head. I couldn't even tell my psychiatrist. I'm searching for places that can handle my weight. I even cried full on which has not been happening since I started taking medication for depression. Is this anxiety? Or my brain is just ready let go finally.

How long should it take a company to check references? It's been 2weeks since I've provided this info, I'm anxious everyday. Assume I did not get the position & move on? Losing hope- really need this.

I've always have a constant fear of getting fired/ bad reviews - any little thing I do wrong or get feedback on I get I pretend I'm fine with but it really makes me even more anxious. Is this normal?

My anxiety has been relatively constant during this whole wfh covid situation so I haven’t been wanting to be intimate with my partner as often. They said its bringing down their mood, any advice?

Is anyone utterly confused about what they want to do long-term?

Has anyone dealt with a therapist not being able to see you (virtually) while you are temporarily located in another state? I’m struggling with coordinating my work and when I’ll be in my home state with my sessions because apparently I can only be seen when I’m physically in my home state. Are there different types of lisences I should look for that would allow someone to treat me while traveling? It’s all very confusing…

My mood has been fluctuating so much lately. Some days (yesterday) I wake up feeling invincible and some days (today) want to hide myself the rest of the world and feel like nothing will ever get better. I’m trying to push myself to make plans with other ppl and am really self-conscious about it cuz I don’t want ppl to see me in low spirit.. any ideas on how to fix that?

Why can thanksgiving and Christmas be such harder days? I had a lovely day and am lucky enough that my latest bout of anxiety ended (more like mostly dissipated) about two months ago. I haven’t had high levels of depression in a while and I almost NEVER cry even when I’m depressed. Yet, I ended my day in tears today. Is this normal? I have so many blessings in life at the moment compared to other during such a horrible times bf really am appreciative. Is it guilt because others are suffering?

I was just laid off due to COVID. Felt invincible when the crisis began but now feel lost as if my career was ripped out with the tide. Slowly gaining motivation to get back on top

My therapist just told me I'm depressed..do you ever feel like they tell you things you hear a lot or could have figured out on your own? Like take care of yourself, it's ok to feel such and such, etc. I'm still newer to therapy so wondering if that's the common experience? Do you ever have moments where you're like wow that actually is eye opening and I wouldn't have gotten that from reading self help books and websites etc?

What “self help” books are you guys reading? I just read Untamed by Glennon Doyle and wow, I want to start from the beginning again, but feel like I should read something else. Would love any suggestions.

Can anyone else not sleep right now? So stressed and exhausted with everything but can’t fall asleep

having vivid violent dreams I can remember which has never happened. Pretty depressed also for reasons. Struggling to get out of bed let alone exercise. Feel inadequate for lacking mental strength