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Both of my pregnancies were high risk and I chose to tell work after the anatomy scan at 20 weeks. If anything were to happen, I didn’t want to have to tell work - it was easier for my mental health to pass the 20 week hurdle.
I have always believed in telling someone at work as soon as possible (like even before family). I know it is taboo, but in my head it has just made sense.
The first time, I was high risk due to previous loss and years of "infertility." I knew there'd be doctor appointments getting in the way of work, etc.
The second pregnancy, which was supposed to be "normal" I still told my direct supervisor and HR. Very glad I did, too. I ended up having a placenta abruption at work at 10 weeks pregnant (thought it was a miscarriage). Still don't know who cleaned up the literal trail of blood I left across the hall.
When I had the placenta abruption I was glad they knew I was pregnant, because it allowed them to support me in a humane manner. HR offered me bereavement (even though it ultimately did not result in the loss of the baby) so I didn't have to use PTO.
Do what makes sense for you.
Ive always told my direct boss right away. If something were to happen, I'd share with him that I had lost the baby anyway because I'd take time off.
Wouldn’t tell them until it’s absolutely obvious. In my culture it’s a bad sign to tell people prematurely
In my last pregnancy, I told a bunch of people around 8 weeks. Then, I had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks. It was so painful to tell all those folks I lost the baby. So for this one, I told a couple friend/coworkers early on - the kind of people who would support me if I miscarried again. But have been staying tight-lipped otherwise. I will wait until 20 weeks at least.
If you aren’t worried about job security, then I would tell your direct boss right away.
Like S1, I had a missed miscarriage so I still ended up telling my boss anyway when I needed time off for a D&C.
I have had two super high risk pregnancies and one premature delivery. I haven’t revealed pregnancies until 24+ weeks (viability).
I told my leader early to explain my fatigue and my closer work friends.
If your job isn’t at risk, I personally tell everyone right away. If anything happens (which did happen once), I don’t want to be going through it and also explaining what is going on.