If you had a high risk pregnancy, when did you tell people at work? Last time I told them at 17 weeks with a (seemingly) healthy pregnancy (turned into a traumatic birth). I’m newly pregnant again, and I will be very high risk, so debating if I tell sooner? Not worried about job security.

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Both of my pregnancies were high risk and I chose to tell work after the anatomy scan at 20 weeks. If anything were to happen, I didn’t want to have to tell work - it was easier for my mental health to pass the 20 week hurdle.

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I have always believed in telling someone at work as soon as possible (like even before family). I know it is taboo, but in my head it has just made sense.

The first time, I was high risk due to previous loss and years of "infertility." I knew there'd be doctor appointments getting in the way of work, etc.

The second pregnancy, which was supposed to be "normal" I still told my direct supervisor and HR. Very glad I did, too. I ended up having a placenta abruption at work at 10 weeks pregnant (thought it was a miscarriage). Still don't know who cleaned up the literal trail of blood I left across the hall.

When I had the placenta abruption I was glad they knew I was pregnant, because it allowed them to support me in a humane manner. HR offered me bereavement (even though it ultimately did not result in the loss of the baby) so I didn't have to use PTO.

Do what makes sense for you.

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Ive always told my direct boss right away. If something were to happen, I'd share with him that I had lost the baby anyway because I'd take time off.

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Wouldn’t tell them until it’s absolutely obvious. In my culture it’s a bad sign to tell people prematurely

In my last pregnancy, I told a bunch of people around 8 weeks. Then, I had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks. It was so painful to tell all those folks I lost the baby. So for this one, I told a couple friend/coworkers early on - the kind of people who would support me if I miscarried again. But have been staying tight-lipped otherwise. I will wait until 20 weeks at least.

If you aren’t worried about job security, then I would tell your direct boss right away.

Like S1, I had a missed miscarriage so I still ended up telling my boss anyway when I needed time off for a D&C.

I have had two super high risk pregnancies and one premature delivery. I haven’t revealed pregnancies until 24+ weeks (viability).

I told my leader early to explain my fatigue and my closer work friends.

If your job isn’t at risk, I personally tell everyone right away. If anything happens (which did happen once), I don’t want to be going through it and also explaining what is going on.

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