I’m fairly new to being a boss and I’m definitely struggling with being respected as a woman in this workplace. I cried at work and was told I was only crying because I’m a “female”. I have employees that don’t listen to a word I say because I’m a woman, and I get screamed at by male employees without anyone batting an eye because they are men 🙃

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My suggestion, and how I’ve handled it since I was 22 years old: yell, right the fuck back in every forum, using professional or profanity, whichever the audience dictates!
We know we’re warriors demonstrated daily to anyone who watches!

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I think as a boss, you must have your own deterrent at work! Don't cry at work because when you become a boss you are already supposed to become an independent person at work! There's no such thing as a man or woman .

How many people are reporting to you? How many men vs women report to you? How are you doing with the females? What is your relationship like with your direct report? Happy to give some book recommendations, but just trying to better understand the dynamics.

Your personal belief that you’re not enough is coloring how people treat you. Start considering how you are complicit in creating the situation you say you don’t want. Creating a man vs woman attitude won’t help. Start believing in yourself, start showing up differently. Stand up tall, and shift the narrative.

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