I’m wondering if you’ve heard this before: “You don’t seem like a lawyer.”

Without context, this might read like an insult. However, it is normally quite the opposite.

What does it mean to “not seem like a lawyer?”

How can we break the negative stereotypes of our profession?

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Every youngish female lawyer ever. It means you're not a white male that is also clean cut and dressed nicely.

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I think “seem” is that you don’t come across as an asshole.

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I get this all the time and I take it as a compliment.

Physically, I don't look like a lawyer - scruffy beard, long hair. And I don't take myself too seriously, have a good sense of humor, and know how to actually relax. I also don't mention my work unless directly asked. All of which I think is what people react to: they have a stereotype of lawyers as straight-laced, serious, self-important, and stressed out. When you're not one of those things, they get surprised.

Heck, I get it from other lawyers when I tell them I'm in tax and they say 'you don't seem like a tax lawyer,' whatever that means lol.

Break the stereotype by not fitting the stereotype!

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We are now. Welcome to the collective.

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Usually means you have a sense of humor.

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Gotten this many times when people see all my tattoos

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same, and my gravitation towards dive bars and grungy concerts

Not an argumentative douche. We can’t as long as those negative traits are rewarded by this industry.

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“You don’t seem like a lawyer… and your long hair idk I don’t see many male lawyers with long hair”

Thank you v much darling 🥵

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Lol all the time and mostly from guys who ask me out - but to be fair, I’m an under 30, ethnic, 5’1 female with a cutesy/quieter voice so their reference points for what lawyers look like are shows like Suits, The Good Wife and Rake. Many people I meet don’t actually know any lawyers in real life.

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Ha! A friend and former big law coworker once called me “the least risk-averse lawyer” he ever knew. To this day, I still don’t know if this was a compliment or an insult!

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And I have long hair with blonde highlights (cover the grey) and love Prada. Basically a younger version of Richard Branson, or so I’ve been told. Wish I had his money, but I don’t know that was a compliment either. People who don’t know me have assumed I was in the entertainment industry! That, however, is kind of a compliment!

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I like to smile, be cordial, and chat with people (even folks I'm deposing - of course about generalities and not their actual testimonies/case related issues) and apparently that all adds up to being too friendly to be a lawyer. *shrug*

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