Is it a hate crime if a gay guy called another gay man the "F" word? l witnessed this today and I don't know how I should feel? I'm curious to know other people's thoughts on this topic.

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I don’t think it’s a hate crime. But I don’t think it’s demure or mindful.

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a hate crime is usually associated with trying to terrorize a community, also it’s not a crime as far as I know to use a slur.

Under the circumstances of two gay men, I wouldn’t feel terrorized, although I wouldn’t think very highly of the guy that said it,

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I hate to be called F word. Also, I wouldn’t call any other gay F word under whatever circumstances.

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Agreed 💯

Weelll I feel like it depends on the individual. I call one of my gay friends one as a joke between us. Hey f—- and he responds hey f—— but it could be pretty jarring to hear that I definitely get that.

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Still don’t think it’s a hate crime.

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Speech is not a crime outside of very limited circumstances. This is not one of them.

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Agree! It has to be in the form of a threat of harm in order to really be counted as a crime.

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I really detest the social media gays who have no concept of reality, belittle others who don’t have their physical built, and lack the financial literacy of an adult. I think that word is acceptable when describing them. They demand equality, yet shut the door on everyone who isn’t like them. Hypocrisy at its finest.

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I’ll say it in bed 😉

This response made my insides tingle

I bet you’re not gay? We do this to reclaim that word- unless it was said in anger then that doesn’t make sense

So basically it's like the n word but for gays

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