Related Posts
Incoming multi-tier cringe

Hello,
Hope you are doing well. I wanted to reach out to invite you to participate in survey for assessing software developers and adoption of secondment option. This survey has assessment of software developer and secondment services related questions which have multiple choice questions and it takes 5-7 minutes.
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/2VTBD6X
Additional Posts in 30s & 40s Singles
Anybody awake and want to chat? 35M here!
Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?
Any M 40+ in Nairobi? The apps here are not it!
Where them 30+ ladies at? 25M 🙋♂️😉
New to Fishbowl?
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.





I honestly see it more of a green flag these days
As a woman, this is where I’m at ☝️
OP, this is just my own opinion experiencing from the other side and others may differ. I think not having SM presence is one thing and is fully legit if you're not interested in having to do with any of it for any or no reason at all. But if you create accounts (forget following public accounts and influencers for a second) where you follow friends' updates but don't share anything yourself, it feels like stalking, and the friendship doesn't feel genuine on the other side. I get super annoyed when some of my connections comment when we meet IRL of my posts (while not liking them) but they don't share anything themselves, online or offline. It's as if I'm not worth their trust to know about their lives.
Speaking also as a female, if you worry about your personal info or security , don't post under a "public" setting and be mindful of what you post. Or go completely offline for genuine connections.
Community Builder
All great answers - so who is willing to meet and greet over the weekend?
I’m a F and I do the same. I’ve found that I enjoy things a lot more because I’m not focusing on “doing it for the ‘gram.” I don’t hate on others that use social media and I do post occasional stories, but that’s about it.
I’m also a media-less lady and I don’t really get negative feedback about it, but this was a great post to get more insight. One guy did joke that I might be a catfish, but he met me in person and understands and appreciates that I just like to live and be in the moment. It’s definitely a green flag for me when a guy is not on it either.
I don’t have any SM but LinkedIn. And I don’t owe anyone any further explanation as to why I don’t. When asked, I simply reply I don’t have any but LinkedIn. If asked why I don’t have any, I reply no reason.
Not at all. Annoying because hard to stalk? Yes. But it’s more of a green flag that a guy isn’t into social media. Idk what men think about women not being on sm but probably a positive all else equal.
its a green flag in my book
been SM free (including linked in) since 2016 and have no desire to go back
So I have an unpopular opinion being that virtually no one is SM free. You just need to to be connected to one friend in their circle who uses SM if you want to track their whereabouts. Nearly everyone has one friend. My sister has never had a SM account of any kind but I see her whereabouts since one friend of hers will post a picture of their night out
I’d be more comfortable if your hot.
I know a few guys who don't have social media. I don't post as much on Facebook as I used to, and that's mostly because social media is an illusion- it's all the "good stuff" in someone's life without any of the bad stuff. So no, I don't think it's a red flag if someone has no social media. However, I would find it off if someone said "I don't have/use social media" when really what they mean is "I don't post on social media"
No
No, some people are not into SM. I have an active LinkedIn profile because it's essential to growing and evolving my career. Though I have an Instagram, all I post is food and places I've traveled for pleasure (no pictures of myself, and I'm not that active). To be honest, I cannot date or be with someone who lives on SM. It doesn't make him a bad person, but it's just not for me.
Not at all.