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Don’t think it’s selfish but I think generally speaking within 3-4 months a person knows whether they can see a future with someone or not.
Yes I think you can see that, but I guess in hindsight that’s when things started going awry in my last engagement. Maybe I just didn’t talk through enough things before
Take your time whatever you feel is best for you. At the end of the day no one can tell you what works best for you. There are a few solid Reddit posts on marriage in r/Muslim & r/MuslimMarriage
Thanks Danial
In your opinion, how long does it take to know someone?
Fair. You can’t really ‘know’ someone without living with them… and even then, they can choose to be duplicitous. So, it really boils down to your qadr.
Stay wary of the ultra religious and people who have been on a journey. They [mostly] care about their narrative.
Make sure you and your prospect(s) agree on the timeline — so neither of you feel wronged or misled. And if there is misalignment, please don’t lead them on…
“Nothing will ever befall us except what Allah has destined for us. He is our Protector. So in Allah let the believers put their trust.” (9:51). Good luck!
No it's no selfish. Take as much time as you need to feel comfortable and sure with someone. But keeping things shorter is preferred. Longer periods of getting to know each other sometimes doesn't typically translate into marriage. Also you want to avoid falling into temptations. You might reach a point where you can't learn more about someone without transgressing boundaries. Just have that in mind.
You’re right C1, what are some things you suggest work best then?
I've seen "Questions to ask before marriage" (maybe from NYT but elsewhere too) which really helps to get conversations to important matters.