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How do I stop self destructing? 😢
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Why are you posting this in multiple bowls? What kind of validation are you craving? This isn't healthy. Pls consider therapy.
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Oh yeah, I've seen the other walls of text.
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Whatever you keep doing, you are choosing. Also- when everyone around you is “toxic”, you should probably seek some therapy cause you’re likely the one with the problem.
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No wonder you are struggling —-dating ISO is like romance by flow chart. My relationship with ISO was less Netflix and chill and more NIST standards and thrill. Our relationship felt like a series of never-ending policys and procedures that I continually failed to comply to and had to work harder. Romantic evenings sometimes involved meticulously calibrated mood lighting with relationship progress reports complete with bar graphs and pie charts. Once we reached standardize optimal cuddling and the quarterly questionaries started arriving, I knew it was over.
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Reminds me of Sheldon on "The Big Bang Theory"
….CONTD where?
But also, probably time to get your own space.
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Sorry. Its continued here...
I have been dealing w/toxic work environments
for the past 7 years & my family is super critical, toxic, & dysfunctional. I choose to keep my relationship & living situation private because my family (especially my parents & siblings) are SUPER TOXIC & NEGATIVE & it was horrible and I was so depressed 3 years ago when I lived at home with my parents & older siblings while working in a super toxic work environment. My mom was the only supportive one & everyone else was so negative towards me & gave me a hard time even though I got treated like crap at work & was in hell. I have heard my mom criticize my cousin when she found out she was living with her boyfriend a few years ago & said "yeah, she's living with some guy." My dad has also said when I used to come home late that "if its a guy who you're spending the night with, then that's not how you do it." This is why I won't share my relationship or living arrangment with them. Honestly, my boyfriend is very childish & has alot of growing up to do & if he never discusses marriage with me like he currently doesn't, then where is this relationship REALLY going??! I mentioned this earlier to him & he said "what does where is relationship going really mean?" I have not even met anyone in your life at all & your family does not even know I exist. Smh. Like why does that even need to #1 determining factor as to whether or not you can see a future with me. Like whatever!! I dont even know what to say about this. All I can say is I am working more towards getting my own place EVEN MORE NOW!!,
I agree with you. I never meant to live with my boyfriend--trust me. When I took my temp job 3 years ago, I could not find an affordable apartment in my area & had to live in an extended stay hotel, so my boyfriend suggested for me to live with him because he said it would be cheaper--which was meant to be temporary.
Also, my mom is the only main person who I talk to in my family. She gives me advice about work & other things, my dad is emotional unavailable, & my older sisters & brothers are distant and always have been.
I know my boyfriend is not taking the relationship seriously. I wish i knew why, but I cant continue to go on this way
Get your own place, live on your own, and seek therapy.