People who have cheated in their previous relationships, how did you come to realize the reason behind your behavior? A close friend confided in me that she has cheated in all her previous relationships and struggles to understand the reasoning behind it. She feels a lot of shame and is trying to understand why she does what she does.I have suggested therapy but she is not ready yet. How did you folks arrive at the root cause behind your behavior? Advice? Book suggestions that I can pass along?

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I think it depends on the situation a fair bit, people cheat for different reasons. I’ve cheated, but really not driven at all by not liking my boyfriend who I truly loved, but by falling hard for someone else probably driven by a need of wanting something more exciting. It got messy. I learned my lesson.

I’m actually still with that boyfriend, he’s now my husband and I haven’t cheated on him in 7 years. Something I’ve found really helps if I find myself getting itchy is having a new or exciting experience with him. We got a toy subscription box. We’ve recently downloaded a threesome app which is quite exciting and fun, with a similar thrill to it.

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Mind sharing the sub you use? What's the app for?

Sounds like a need for professional therapy

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Sounds like your friend is Self sabotaging

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Attachment theory is useful

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