I've been given too much feedback (constructive) and now I can't help but feel I'm shit at my job. I'm analyst level and starting to feel really tired overwhelmed and disheartened. how do u cope

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I know, I’m just like this. On my current case, my EM makes me feel like total shit, while the partners/APs are giving me lovely feedback (thank god it’s a balance or I would shut down).

I do a few things:
1) I solve for people that make me feel like a success (whilst challenging me to be better) - there is a huge difference in style which I know impacts my mood and motivation so try to optimize for teams that make me feel good
2) I always say in team norm sessions that a bit of positive feedback goes a long way, and I know about myself that if I feel like I’m performing well I’ll be far more confident and motivated
3) I keep a ‘happy emails’ file on my computer, whenever anyone says something nice to me I save it there. Then when I’m made to feel useless I can read through and remind myself I’m not.

Would love any other’s advice?

You really aren’t as bad as you feel you are right now, you’re just in the thick of a tough environment ❤️


live theses I am opening a happy email file right now... thank you!


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