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Always trust your gut.
Speaking from experience, always pay attention to your gut.
It might depend on the concerns, but the fact is- you have them, something doesn't seem right, and you should listen to your instinct and put yourself first.
Not looking to project my experience onto you, but I will share my story because I personally have been in this situation. (I didn't have beforehand concerns, but once I got started I felt like a square page in a round hole.) I chalked it all up to new job, new environment, new city things.
"It'll get better when I'm more settled in."
"It'll get better when we get through this event"
"It'll get better when we fill XYZ role."
I "It'll get better when-ed" my way through 3.5 years of difficulty and stress that left me stripped of my confidence and with very low self esteem.
Looking back, I knew from the start it wasn't the right environment for me. I recently came across my journals from that time. On day 3, I started crying. 6 months in I rationalized my way through completely unreasonable expectations - trusting that they were reasonable because no one else seemed to be questioning my workload, so it must just be me, right?
It's taken over a year (and some therapy) for me to heal to the point where I feel good about myself again and don't spend my brain power on that shitty situation.
I guess I had to go through it all to learn the lesson to follow my instincts. Life is too short to spend it miserable in a situation that isn't right for me. Put myself first.
Trauma bonds with work are real. Have you now been able to recognize it as such and make the shifts you need to feel like you can move on?
Trust your gut. Leave it quickly
Always trust your gut feeling. I ended up in a horrible situation not trusting my gut feelings!
Life is short. Get out sooner rather than later, because once you burn out you will feel stuck.
While it's easy to say "trust your gut" there is relevant info needed to provide the best advice. How long have you been there? How complicated was the move to the new position? (i.e..relocated to a new town, etc) Examples of some of your concerns that have come to fruition.
ALWAYS trust your gut. Your intuition knows more than your brain.
Trust your gut yes, but have you given the place a chance? If you left a toxic environment and now your attributing everything to those feelings, take the time to push, probe, challenge... It's a new job so you can address some of the concerns head on instead of just taking it.
I would actually not trust my gut, but that is just because I don't have any gut feeling ;) I'm not sure how long you have been there? As long as you dont dislike/hate your job, I think you should stay so that it looks better on your resume and perhaps you will have some reference(s) when you apply for new jobs. However, I think it's good that you have identified that there are concerns so act upon them by being wary of what you say to your colleagues.
I am actually in the same boat at the moment and my realization is this - I ignored red flags in the hiring process because I wanted the role to be “the role” Months in, I am miserable and trying to plan an exit. Trust your gut, and take it from me sooner rather than later.