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Too bad. Keep going, there’s better people out there.
However, I’m now curious, where did you grow up? 🤔
Grew up in the Middle East. Moved to the US for school at 18.
I guess they want to date someone with similar culture and upbringing. That would be preference for most Americans
That’s perfectly fine. But the rudeness is generally uncalled for. What if they don’t look like their online photos, and I decide to react combatively?
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Next time when someone does that, ask them if this is the new form of casteism. That will make them feel like shit. 💩
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Yeah, it’s a bit of sampling bias. The ones that are meeting you are open to meeting you. The ones that you don’t, some of them really don’t want to meet you. IFYKYK
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I had similar experiences. They can’t relate or respect your life experiences/struggles (their parents mights) and neither can you.
Keep exploring, keep learning, keep growing.
Absolutely. I find several to be quite incompetent. They’ve spent most of their lives within 100 miles of where they grew up. I’d be curious how they’d fare in a foreign country where they don’t know anyone at all.
In a way you're dodging such people. Keep trying I'm sure you'll find better people
Absolutely. Basic human kindness and courtesy are quite rare these days.
You just gotta code switch. And do it well.
The women that grew up here and prefer people from their culture aren't inherently red flags. You desi ness will be attractiveness as long as you dont look or sound like a fob
Unfortunate but thats the case with plenty
Couple of things.
1) nothing wrong with being a FOB. Several Indian Americans have pretty lackluster life trajectories considering they grew up here and have parental support a few hours away.
2) nothing wrong with having preferences. The line is drawn where you still treat people with courtesy even if they aren’t necessarily someone you’d want to date. What if some of these women are less attractive than their online photos suggest? Should I treat them condescendingly?
In many cases desis born/raised here do not relate to the ones who immigrated and also, might think there is a motive for us to get GC/citizenship
Ehhh OP, I don’t think that’s true considering how many posts there are about GC/citizenships…
what in the world are online dates now?
Bro do you go to Italy to eat paratha? Do some local immersion
Wow the stereotypes here are wild. I’m a “FOB” married to an Indian-American born and raised in the US. She’s more “Indian” and sanskari than I am.
You had a few bad dates. Could have happened if you dated anyone. Can’t extrapolate to one group or another.
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It’s hard not to generalize if it happens to you 3 out of 3 times straight