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I try to model eating well balanced, being active, practicing Faith and gratitude and finding joy in each day (love to enjoy music and the outdoors together)… I didn’t realize the anxiety I’ve been projecting onto my kiddo 😢 😩 But the deadlines are real. And when they’re up late I’m up later. I’m just burnt out, and feeling like I’ve been letting people down at home and work.
Ironic that in a post about putting too much pressure on yourself you are… putting a ton of pressure on yourself. Read back what you wrote. Perfection is not the goal here. Practice saying out loud to yourself, in front of your kid: “I want to do this as well as I can but I know perfect isn’t possible. It will be ok if I make a mistake. I don’t have to be the best, I just have to keep trying to get better.” Etc… if you catch yourself in a doom loop of perfectionism and pressure, modeling how you get out of it will help both of you. Good luck. From: a recovered high anxiety, insecure overachiever.
My two cents - prioritize their mental health over getting homework done. Second grade homework is just not that important.
I needed to hear this.
I couldn’t muster up the will to do work outside of class until college when I was interested in the subject matter. I wasn’t wired that way and was totally fine with the consequences.
Now I am the first hand raiser for pitches, extra projects, etc. and I actually enjoy it.
Mirror what you want them to see, have transparent conversations, let them know to enjoy life as kids teach them to balance work and fun. Nothing wrong with them wanting to get their homework done, it’s important but not to the point that it causes anxiety. You may need to slow down and relax, like you said they may be feeding off your anxiety
What works as a reminder for me is that my child deserves better, and that includes not having anxiety passed down from their mother. I may have my own struggles st tgis stage in life with career and deadlines but I can't have it affect their future mental and physical health being. Easier said than done though.
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Perfectionism is under the anxiety umbrella; part genetic/part environmental
Modeling regulated emotions; is the way to go. But to overcome your own perfectionism, you can also practice ‘self’-compassion, *set realistic goals, use mindfulness techniques/don’t overreact to seemingly unimportant things, and consider cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to challenge negative thinking patterns.
Good luck. Your own awareness of this issue is the starting point so great job, Dad! 💖