My husband and I eloped last year for various personal reasons, but are still having a “wedding” in a few months. I initially just wanted to do a reception but my and his family really want a short ceremony. We already exchanged rings…so do we do it again? We’re not religious so is there anything else we should do?

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Instead of a ceremony, could you do a highlight reel of your relationship or say your favorite things about each other?

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That’s a cute idea!!

So they just want to pretend it didn’t already happen? Lol strange that they just want you to put on an act for them - and it would entirely be for them.

I bet you could lie and say you tried to find an officiant but since you’re already married, no one thought it’d be appropriate to do it. Maybe they’ll get the hint then!

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I know it’s odd! My friend can officiate (she’s down it many times) so we have someone who can help narrate the thing, but I just don’t know what else to do haha

May be an unpopular opinion, but unless your families are paying for this, they don’t get a say. Do what YOU want and what makes YOU happy. It’s your day, not theirs and your example is the exact reason why my soon to be husband and I are eloping (in style, of course). Our families will find out after it happens and that will be that!

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This such a good point and I know you’re right but I hate letting them down and don’t feel like it’s worth the argument for something that’ll take 5-10 mins of the day haha. We planned our elopement in Boston at the Boston public library! It was just the two of us

My friends got privately married during COVID. A year later they had a big reception and they did a little vow renewal and re-exchanged rings to confirm their commitment in front of loved ones. Her dad was the officiant and the whole thing took less than five minutes and was very sweet! Then we carried on with eating, drinking, and dancing!

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You could read letters to each other! Then have the officiant talk about your first year as a married couple/your future

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Just do another quick ceremony. Think of it as renewal or anniversary vows.

Your families want to share in that moment with you. That’s sweet and loving.

Okay thank you!!!

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