Thoughts on inviting co-workers to your wedding? I joined a new team a year ago during the pandemic and haven’t met them in person - I’ve developed some cordial working relationships but not sure if I’d consider them wedding close! Any thoughts or advice?

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Only invite your coworkers who are real friends outside of work. I drew the line at “would it be weird if this person saw me sobbing down the aisle and expressing very personal feelings” and that eliminated most of my bosses and work acquaintances I don’t like THAT much.

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Haha love this 😂, my motto moving forward

Nope. Especially if you haven’t met them in person. “Cordial” relationships of any kind don’t translate to wedding guests to me.
I invited my manager because I’ve worked for her for 3 years and we are very close.

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I invited co workers, but like.. they’re friends. I’ve gone on trips with them outside of work and been in their apartments, etc. i wouldn’t not invite anyone who didn’t fall into this category

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I think you can skip inviting them (especially now with the pandemic) I don't think a reasonable person would be expected to be invited to a wedding - especially if you've never met them in person.

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Hell, no. Perfect excuse not to invite them.

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We invited a few from my husband’s firm that he’s been close with for years, but none from mine. I didn’t know how to avoid the whole “if I invite this person do I have to invite the whole office” stress, so I just didn’t invite any.

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