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Whatever you do, don’t have another child
At least not with this man child
Sounds like you already have a second child.
Same. Everyone kept telling us have another kid, it’s important for the first one to have a sibling yada yada but I gave my mental health more priority.
OP, at 2.5 ish these kiddos grow a brain and then everything takes twice the time. Do not have a second child. Single kids can thrive too, all they need is one grounded parent. And speak up before the burnout happens because doing so much and taking so much mental load eventually destroys the relationship.
I only have 1 child because my husband and I cannot handle the workload. My son would wake up repeatedly for most of the first few years. Some of it was external, some it him, some of it us. You never know the child that you’re going to get. We’re finally getting sleep but I went through cancer last year and am done putting my body through hell.
There are a lot of families with only one child. We focus on playdates with same kids, birthday parties, and excursions to keep my son busy but social at the same time. He does say he wants an older sibling but not younger one. I know he’ll be fine with all the attn he’s getting from us. My husband and I treat him with respect and try to involve him in decision-making, planning the day, etc. so he feels like he’s part of our team. I think it’s all about inclusion.
I always thought I wanted at least 2, but found that I was already overstimulated with one. Happily one and done because I can be the best version of myself with my only.
It’s ok to be one and done. I wanted 2-3 but had severe pregnancy complications and my ability to have a second healthy pregnancy is doubtful. Lots of my friends are only children and had happy childhoods.
What’s concerning is the fact that your husband seems to think he doesn’t need to contribute to the household he lives in. I would tell him either he steps up or you will be hiring help. I pay $120 per cleaning for a cleaner - could you find space in your budget for something like that?
I’m at a point where I’m eternally exhausted and I’m tired of being the breadwinner. I earn over twice what he does. Today I asked him to unload the dishwasher and he refused. We’ve all been sick with endless daycare illnesses but he’s such a baby about it. I’m literally at a point where I don’t want to have a second child because he won’t do the damn dishes. I also decorated for my sons birthday party all by myself while he talked to his business partner about some stupid new venture and he refused to accompany me to my sons classmates birthday party this weekend because he had come home from traveling and was tired. I wish I married rich. It would be one thing if he was always gone because he earns a lot but I could afford more help. Instead I have the worst of all the worlds. I guess I’m just exhausted and need to vent. Not sure where to go from here to fix this.
As frustrating as this is, he needs a mental health check. He feels less than and stuck most likely. I say this as someone who has been there and felt the same way. And my husband and I have the same conversation ever 12-16 weeks. It’s exhausting but it is because he is depressed and spirals. Definitely not the time for another child, but we aren’t all blessed with happy go lucky positive thinkers willing to take anything on. Now, if it isn’t depression and it is just a constant pity party, he needs a wake up call.
First it sounds like you need to sit down with your husband and discuss your concerns and set responsibilities. Secondly, there is nothing wrong with being one and done. We happily decided to only have 1 and have no regrets.