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My joining is on Dec 13th …for the last 3 mondaysI will be receiving some mail from tcs like mails about what they are doing and a reminder mail for my joining date but today didn’t get any mails ….when I can expect the joining details in mail…like welcome mail from tcs ?? Tata Consultancy
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I am a fresher and joined infosys Nov 2021 in campus placement.
Now has 11 months of experience. I am planning for MS in Jan intake
If I resign now notice period is 1 month, but if I complete 1 year notice period is 3 months?
My visa is not yet approved, I am confused now whether to resign or stay?
Is there any buy back notice if it is there what is the process?
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I would have asked him why he thinks asking questions causes a loss of face. He might have been referring to a situation where he thought your question wasn’t smart. But to be honest, I would totally ignore his feedback. I strongly believe that asking questions is a powerful tool for effective problem solving and effective communication. Your manager should create an environment where it is safe to ask questions and his comment tells a lot about him.
I would love to but perhaps that is not a good move. My style is to keep asking until I understand though I am mindful that intention =/= perception so might have to change my style soon. I appreciate your comment and perspective. It helps me understand my situation better.
This is their insecurity. Don’t make it yours. The most valuable skills and traits come from shunning insecurity, embracing curiosity and discourse. Some of the smartest and most successful people I know seek to listen and understand. Much of that comes from asking questions.
There is the world the world is and the way the world should be. It should be a place where your manager guides you. It is a place where you are judged for not knowing everything, particularly in high performance fields like law or finance. I coach my juniors to spread their questions out to multiple people on the team so they learn and get answers without saving face vis a vis any one person.
*should of course read *while* saving face
I would say this is specific to this manager/company culture. That is a poor leadership quality to have and short-sighted in my opinion but again, my opinion.
In the very beginning of my corporate career, I got a very negative comment while I was asking more questions about the assignment. That made me not ask questions anymore. As I grew up in my career from an IT role to a strategy consulting role, I found myself at a disadvantage.
So, ignore your manager. Asking questions is crucial for developing critical thinking and articulating your thoughts.
I would see asking questions as curiosity, which I would want in an employee/leader. Not all advice is good advice!
By any chance, did you ask a question in front of people that showed they hadn't communicated the project clearly in advance of the meeting? It might be that you showed up their poor planning or communication.
So long as you're not asking basic or silly questions, this says more about your manager than it does about you. They are probably afraid of looking clueless (or more likely, repeating an instance of looking clueless) in front of their peers.
Mentor
Depends on your boss —are they nurturing and focused on growth of their team or are they focused only on their own growth? The “there are no stupid questions and open door policy” can be BS mgmt. speak to maintain optics, basically you know your manager better than anyone here, so do you feel comfortable asking clarifying, instructional, informational questions? Don’t make it a gender thing, it is about connection, relationship, and trust until it us a gender thing. In my experience most men play by the fake it till you make it rule which is not necessarily a bad thing.
Mentor
I feel for you and have been in your position many times. One thing I learned is to listen not talk unless directly asked a question and don’t overshare or offer any extra detail, especially with a new boss. Keep it 101% professional and to the point. Over time, things will hopefully normalize.
I think it's important that you keep asking but maybe in different ways (less direct) and or from different people.
That comment, without more context from your manager, would make me want to run. Makes me think they are a manager and not a leader.
Red flag red flag!run as far as u can.ive had co-workers say oh but I don't wanna ask to many questions and bother u or sound stupid.im like oh no,ask away.its my job to teach u things,to help u grow as a member of the team and teach u things to help not only the store to run smoothly but to help u grow in ur job.there is never to many or stupid question.if u don't understand something or need to b shown it again and maybe 3 or 4 times then ask.i would rather u learn the right way of how we do things,then u get stressed out.its how turn over rates can make or break a store.plus shoot,if someone thinks of a better way then bring that up also,it's a team not a one man show.if it makes everyone's job easier then I'm all for it.for real though,it seems to me that this person is on one Hella of a power trip and is lining up people to throw under the bus if she gets in trouble.ive had that kinda manger and there is reasons y I'm no longer with that companies. People leave a company not cuz of the store most times,it's the toxic management.
I’m really confused here. I honestly thought it’s okay to talk things through with my manager. But maybe I am reading him wrong. Do guys do this with their bosses??
You should definitely be able to ask your leader questions. I would’ve asked for examples.
There could be two possibilities here: they think your questions aren’t properly researched prior to asking OR they don’t know the answers to your questions and feel some type of way.