Networking tips for introverts.

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Just do it. It gets easier.

Write out good questions in advance. Prepare a script. Focus on the other person.

Use basic Chris Voss techniques to keep things going. Mirroring and labeling.

Mirroring: repeat the last three words they say with an upward inflection.

“An upward inflection?”

Gets them to expand on what they said. They don’t even notice you doing it.

Labeling: Distill what they’re saying into a shorter phrase, using “it sounds like” or “it seems like.”

“It seems like your goal is to make the other person feel like you’re listening closely.”

If you can get the other person to do 70% of the talking, you’ll be in good shape.

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That’s exactly what I do and it works really well. Some people just love talking and being listened, so I just always ask the same type of questions to make them talk about what they like. It’s usually interesting as well because you get to discover new topics quite easily, and without having to talk a lot.
Then they think of you in a positive way because they felt great after the conversation.

Leverage your natural ability to connect authentically one-on-one. IM acquaintances on occasion just to check in or briefly commiserate. You’ll find yourself part of a surprising variety of inner circles over time.

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Thanks OP.. we need more tricks here. Every day it’s a challenge to navigate through these mazes surrounded by our extrovert colleagues!!! No offense to anyone but hard reality

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