Anyone else struggle with lots of team events/dinners during the week? I love my team but need me time at night to be my best self. 1 night out is my max. Thoughts on explaining it to team?

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No need to explain. “Sorry, not tonight" is all that is required

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Typically, when I manage a team, we designate 1 night/ week for a team dinner. Anything more is optional.

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I hate this. Was so close to quitting because of this even though I love everything else about the work. Fortunately just landed a project by myself so I’ve escaped for a few more months. I’m wondering if it might be more manageable in a non-American culture? Certain European countries I could see there being less obligation to socialize

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You don’t have to explain anything. Just say that you can’t make it or that you have other plans.

I’m the same. I can generally do a max of 1 work related thing in the evenings a week.

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SC1 You are spot in. I find German habits much more roductive in that work is done at work. Fewer hours are worked as a rule but evenings are considered personal time and going out is optional.

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The problem with not going is that everyone else gets closer and you end up an outsider. All the perks end up going to the people who are closest.

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By the way OP - I attend team events maybe once per month at most. My time is my time.

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