Not everyone is a good listener. 

Most people have a habit of listening to find a way to relate your story to their lives and then tell you how it relates.

A small percentage of people will listen to you, show empathy, find ways to help you, cheer you on, and overall, keep the focus on you and your needs. 

Next time you have a conversation, find out who's really listening to you.

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This advice ignores the power empathy has. A person being able to relate a story to their life allows the listener to understand feelings and emotions or the speaker a lot better in order to be more supportive of a person.

Asking people to not relate to each other's experiences is something I would expect of someone who is trying to be a guru for the money but doesn't understand how people work.

OP graduated in 2011 and went into finance and is now a life coach when they havnt lived life... Beware

I'm glad I know you better too. Now I can let people know you are a fraud and scammer trying to sell poor services and steal money

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Behavioral patterns dictate where you will be in the future. Positive patterns help you reach that future faster. Negative patterns delay or redirect the future you want for yourself.

You are in control of breaking a negative pattern. When things aren't going your way, there are things you are doing that are contributing to it.

Are you consistently: Working long hours, not communicating, or accepting negativity?

If what you are doing is negative for your standards, break the pattern

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Think about your current situation. For example, what are you spending time on that is outside of your control?

- Are you trying to change someone's behavior/belief?
- Are you forcing someone to like you?
- Are you breaking someone's pattern abruptly?

Focus on making yourself better and what you feel you can control.

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As you grow with your company and take on more responsibilities, delegation becomes MANDATORY to be effective in your role.

Just don't confuse delegation as an excuse to get away from tasks while you don't work on anything important. Rather, use it to grow efficiently by working on the most important tasks while others help you.

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Who is responsible for Employee burnout? The organization, the team and superiors or the employee himself?

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There may come the point where constant meetings, being around the same people, or the same environment will cloud your creativity. When this happens, you may need time to yourself in a different environment to think clearly without any disturbance. 

Great ideas can wake you up in the middle of the night, during a shower, while walking in the park, or any other setting outside of a meeting.

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It's important to find someone you can trust to share your thoughts and feel comfortable knowing someone has your back instead of you "bottling" your situation to yourself.

Recovery is harder when it's a lonely road.

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Work doesn't have to cater towards someone else's structure constantly. Find what works for you.

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- Prioritize Your Life With Your 10 Life Pillars.
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How are you dealing with your Burnout?

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* They don't know what they are looking for
* They love to talk

Even if these people have good intentions, be careful of them. Your time is valuable, and the best thing for you to do is to be direct back at them.

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4. Lack of Support To Complete Work Or For Mental/Emotional Peace Of Mind
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You can apply simple project management skills to your life through daily routines. Achieving your goals requires a little bit of repetition with an allowance of some variance along the way.

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Are you ignoring your symptoms? If not, which one do you have?

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People say this all the time, but do you know what that means or how to do it?

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Being present is HARD because our mind likes to wander.

Here are 4 key themes of people who live (and thrive) in the present moment:

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Understanding what your team, clients, family, or friends expect from you is important to build and keep a healthy relationship.

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Working in silo can hurt your business when working with teams that require everyone to be on the same page.

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5) Self

Notice that these five are all about you? You can only change what you can control and that starts with your inner work.

Are you aware of the difference between all five? If so, what do you need to change? COMMENT below!

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