Surrounding yourself with the right people can make a major impact in living the life that you want.

People who Teach, Empower, and Support you in every aspect of your life will fast-track your growth. Also, surrounding yourself with these people will give you an environment of freedom to talk about anything.

Do you have these types of people in your current relationships? If so, make sure you prioritize building on them as they are your keepers.

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Whom you surround yourself with is a choice, just like everything else in your life.

Don't underestimate the strength you can gain from having the right people by your side who genuinely support you through good times and bad. You shouldn't make space for people who bring constant negativity.

IG: Burnoutcoachcarlo

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There are five things you can change to overcome Burnout.

1) Behavior
2) Beliefs
3) Habits
4) Routine
5) Self

Notice that these five are all about you? You can only change what you can control and that starts with your inner work.

Are you aware of the difference between all five? If so, what do you need to change? COMMENT below!

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Focus on you. It's mentally draining having to think about what others think of you or if they even like you.

Focus on your growth, and the rest will follow.

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How burned out are you from work? Everyone experiences different levels. So, it would help if you treated your Burnout accordingly.

There are three layers to beat your Burnout.

- Work Smarter In The Work Environment.
- Prioritize Your Life With Your 10 Life Pillars.
- Find Your Purpose Through Your Core Values.

How are you dealing with your Burnout?

Check out @burnoutcoachcarlo on Instagram to learn more.

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I've had my run-ins with people who like to linger in their thoughts and spend time circling in conversation because, whether they knew it or not, they were not sure what they were looking to achieve.

This has burned me in the past (e.g., Hours spent revising material, unnecessary back-and-forth communication with clients).

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Exhaustion and Negativity are not the only symptoms of Burnout. Lacking motivation is also a major symptom.

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If you want more tips on finding motivation through challenges, check out @burnoutcoachcarlo for my latest post.

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Anyone have any stories of their worst burnout feeling?

There may come the point where constant meetings, being around the same people, or the same environment will cloud your creativity. When this happens, you may need time to yourself in a different environment to think clearly without any disturbance. 

Great ideas can wake you up in the middle of the night, during a shower, while walking in the park, or any other setting outside of a meeting.

IG: Burnoutcoachcarlo

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Daily tip 1

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It's important to find someone you can trust to share your thoughts and feel comfortable knowing someone has your back instead of you "bottling" your situation to yourself.

Recovery is harder when it's a lonely road.

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Understanding what your team, clients, family, or friends expect from you is important to build and keep a healthy relationship.

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Hi all! I'm putting together a list of the top 5 reasons for Burnout by different professions (e.g., Corporate workers, Entrepreneurs, Social Workers). For corporate workers, I have the following:

1. Working Long Hours
2. Too Many Tasks
3. Constantly Thinking About Work
4. Lack of Support To Complete Work Or For Mental/Emotional Peace Of Mind
5. Insufficient Rewards For Work Performance

Do you agree with the order? Should I include something else in the top 5? Would appreciate any feedback!

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Behavioral patterns dictate where you will be in the future. Positive patterns help you reach that future faster. Negative patterns delay or redirect the future you want for yourself.

You are in control of breaking a negative pattern. When things aren't going your way, there are things you are doing that are contributing to it.

Are you consistently: Working long hours, not communicating, or accepting negativity?

If what you are doing is negative for your standards, break the pattern

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Think about your current situation. For example, what are you spending time on that is outside of your control?

- Are you trying to change someone's behavior/belief?
- Are you forcing someone to like you?
- Are you breaking someone's pattern abruptly?

Focus on making yourself better and what you feel you can control.

IG: @Burnoutcoachcarlo

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A majority of society tends to stick around to things because they are influenced by "enough" people doing something similar. Hence, they start living someone else's life instead of theirs.

Think about what you want for yourself, what's important, what you value. Then, ask yourself. Do I have these things? Am I living by the things that are important to me?

IG: Burnoutcoachcarlo

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When I was managing consulting projects, I told my teams that they should feel free to communicate with me if they had any issues or concerns. However, I also wanted their ideas about what they would do to solve the issue they are raising.

Situations can get "extreme," or small issues may arise when you are in the heat of the moment trying to accomplish your goals. That's normal.

But to change the pattern and prevent Burnout, you need to communicate with an action.

@Burnoutcoachcarlo

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Working in silo can hurt your business when working with teams that require everyone to be on the same page.

HOW and WHEN you communicate is the strength of any good relationship, whether for work or personal.

IG: Burnoutcoachcarlo

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How do I nicely tell a director (not the one I report to) that I don’t want to work on a project that she’s trying to get me on? My manager and I already had a conversation about me not working on this specific thing (he and I both agree it isn’t something that’ll help my case for promotion, doesn’t need three people working on it, etc). Manager said he’d talk to her but it isn’t sinking in…

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There are many common symptoms of Burnout. E.g., Changes in sleeping patterns, negativity, low energy, lack of motivation, not caring about work. The list can go on for a while.

But they all fall under the umbrella of three major symptoms:

1. Exhaustion
2. Cynicism
3. Professional Efficacy

Are you ignoring your symptoms? If not, which one do you have?

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Daily tip #2

Beat Burnout by working smarter series

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