Understanding what your team, clients, family, or friends expect from you is important to build and keep a healthy relationship.

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What would your advice be for those of us who set unreasonably high expectations of ourselves, and thus are constantly overwhelmed and stressed (despite our supervisors never being displeased with us), and thus burnt out?

Find ways to balance your priorities. Not knowing your situation but you may have answered your own question when you mentioned “unreasonably” high expectations. Define those expectations (not just for work but your life overall). You can still reach for the stars at work. But you may find a better pace in doing so

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