Question for the guys - I am on this muslim dating app and I am facing this issue whenever I start talking to someone that they are no longer interested when I say that I would not have sex before marriage. Not gonna change my mind about that, but does this really filter the people upfront or should we talk about this later in the relationship because it scares the guys at the beginning?

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I would say don’t bring up the topic right away but if the guy asks or conversation goes around that topic you should always be honest and upfront. If guys leave because of that it’s on them. I also encourage you to meet people organically where a guy would like you for your personality and it’ll be very natural. I used dating apps and didn’t work for me

(I am a guy btw)

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You rather filter those people upfront because why would waste your time? There's plenty of good guys out there with proper values. A tip I suggest to everyone is get to the tough conversations right away, the junk will filter itself real quick, while the real/dedicated/non time wasters will stick through it and appreciate it.

(I'm a guy- Alhumdulillah married via muzmatch)

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Don’t compromise on such a major value. You should definitely be honest if he asks or even insinuates intimacy however early. I don’t think you yourself need to bring it up on the first couple dates though, unless you notice tendencies that he may be looking for that (covert or overt innuendos, implying intimacy or initiating any physical contact that makes you uncomfortable on dates). The right guy for you will share those values or at least admire you for upholding them. Think about it this way, even if he’s amazing and everything else aligns perfectly, would you ever compromise on this? If not, you shouldn’t have any regrets. If he says he’s willing to compromise on it instead, give him a fair shot- it may turn out great! However, if he doesn’t respect your boundaries, cut it off. Because if he isn’t respecting your boundaries, it may be indicative of him building resentment on this ‘issue’ over time.

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Agree. EY1 is speaking from some real experience.

I don’t think that’s true or fair. A lot of ‘super religious’ ones end up cheating or manipulating their infidelity

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💀💀 wtf is wrong with people. Where is the Haya

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Tbh, nothing good has come out of these apps for me. I would look more organically and make dua etc. if there are like marriage events in your city try going to that

App or not, morals and values alignment matters.

If someone doesn’t respect your values or charity, they can leave. Full stop.

Whether it’s about premarital sex, smoking, only eating halal, prayer, etc.

Personally, I believe in talking about the hard stuff right away so no one wastes their time.

Wouldn't expect any of those guys to remain faithful after marriage. If they would compromise before, what makes you think they will stop after.

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