Received a save the date for a school friends engagement ceremony but did not receive the invite yet. The event is supposed to be the next weekend. I just checked with my friend and he said the event is postponed. I smell something fishy here; either he does not want to invite me or his engagement got broken off. Please help with my overthinking

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This isn’t about you. He wouldn’t say postponed if it was. Sounds broken off to me but I wouldn’t pry.

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I know there’s so many problems with the mail currently. I sent out my invites at the beginning of January and people still have told me they didn’t get them!! I mean If it was confirmed that it was “postponed” then maybe you can cross off that they decided to uninvite you. Things happen but it would also be the right thing for them to send out something else indicating the celebration is not happening

No mail involved here. Save the date was sent via WhatsApp. I had to check in with him and only then he said it was postponed. I’ve known him since middle school and sure we don’t speak as frequently now so I hope this isn’t the reason he’s inclined to uninvite me

This isn't about you, it's about them being embarrased and rude.

Had a friend's daughter who had a destination wedding and sent out evites and had on the wedding website there would be a local intoduce the couple after the wedding, party details TBA. Never heard anything. Wondered the same thing. Daughter had gone to the wedding as she was close friends with their daughter. When we asked her, she said they decided against it, but thought announcing not doing it was more awkward.

Ditto for another couple that did a save the date and then called off the wedding. Just let it all fad away. Not what Ms Manners would recommend, but people do it.

My guess is its off, not postponed or started pricing the wedding and decided to forego the cost. Either way it's rude. Very unlikely they are having it and just shrunk the guest list. In that case they would have saved face and you didn’t get the notice? So sorry. Followed by either.. Wish you had reached out sooner the guest count is set, or... please come.

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