Salam all - I’m not sure where to ask this but I need help or advise. My sister is in an abusive relationship and AH while she is currently safe living with my parents, she can’t seem to fully detach from the person she married. I’m seeing emotional abuse and manipulation and it breaks my heart to see my sister question her worth and everything she stands for. We are trying our best to support her, but this is a long and painful journey. Does anyone have experience on navigating?

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I pray for your sister. May Allah guide her to peace and closure. I wish I knew what exactly works because every situation and dynamic is different. However, there are hotlines for domestic abuse/violence victims. Also going to a good therapist would help her align emotionally and mentally.

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Thank you PwC1 🤲

I have experience from a younger brother perspective. Here are somethings i can say:
- get her therapy. You can find a Muslim female if youd like, but any therapy is helpful.
- if they have children, also start the process of therapy.
- your parents may need therapy in there own way. having their friends there as support is a start. Not saying they should go to therapy, they wont, but facilitate conversation.
- does your sister have friends? If not this needs to th be remedied
- does your sister have an education or job? This could help make her busy ie back to school or find a part time job in-time.
- if she has kids, get them involved in sports and activities. Some of my sisters best friends are my nephews friends/teammates parents. They have supported her so much
- create a community around her to rally with/for her. We have a very small Muslim community and ours rallied so hard behind all of us throughout the process.

There WILL be good days, there WILL also be bad days. Everything will be fine in time.

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C1 - thank you so much for this message. You seem like an amazing brother. May Allah reward you.

I’m terrified I’ll lose my sister forever. I pray Allah SWT protects her and brings justice.

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W/salam, I have no experience but only thing I can say is get her divorced asap from that guy and also be alongside her as much as possible i.e, dont let her be alone with her thoughts, go out explore cafes, restos, go to gym, arcade, etc. Also use words of affirmation daily which will help her feel better. Inshallah everything works out!

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