Stop telling me to network when what you really mean is work for free on your Saturdays. I’m tired of being told that attending voluntary bar association galas is the only way to get ahead in this industry. It’s just unpaid labor where we have to dress up and pretend to like people we’re actively litigating against. My personal brand shouldn't require me to sacrifice the only four hours of sleep I get a week. Am I the only one who thinks the obsession with networking is just an excuse to keep us in work mode 24/7?

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Totally agree that a lot of “networking” is low value. But i wouldn’t reject networking per se, you just have to be selective. The people who get ahead aren’t going to every event, but they’re def intentionally building a small number of real relationships that actually lead to work. If it feels like unpaid labor, you’re probably in the wrong rooms. The key is finding the events that you have a genuine interest in and thinking of it more as relationship investment than aimless “networking”

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This is absolutely correct. Low value networking is a great way of putting.

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Yes you are.

Life involves lots of unfortunate tasks. Like cooking, cleaning, dealing with my mother, etc. That doesn’t make them “unpaid labor.”

If you just want to be left alone to quietly bill hours sight unseen, you can do so. But then don’t be surprised when you get cut because no one knows or likes you.

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Do you want to be a worker bee forever, always dependent on others giving you work, or do you want to take control of your future and grow your business?

If you're content being a worker bee, then don't spend any time networking. But then you've got to do what the boss says or risk losing your job or not getting a raise. Alternatively, start networking.

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“Work for free”? If your boss is telling you something is part of your job, then it’s…. work for pay. If you don’t have a boss telling you to do it, then don’t?

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As someone who hates it from a social anxiety perspective, I do at least understand that if I want to advance I need my own book of business. If you have other ways of building a book, then by all means skip the networking bullshit, it just tends to be the low hanging fruit of meeting potential referral sources.

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The only 4 hours of sleep you get in a week is 4 hours on Saturday? Do you go to galas on Sundays or something?

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