Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

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How old are you? Two years is definitely not too soon.

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Ah that makes sense. While it is not always the case, most 24 year old guys just aren’t ready to commit commit. Keep having conversations with him about moving in. You’re right to question the relationship if it isn’t progressing. Eventually though he may just not be ready.

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Too young plz keep your independence. You’ll thank me later says the 27 year old who called a divorce lawyer today. Your independence and knowing yourself and your wants and needs in life are SO important

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I would ask for what you want. As a 24 year old guy, I definitely wouldn’t want to feel pressured to move in. if you want to see him more than weekends, suggest things he might like during the week. Ask if you could bring him a meal, play a video game, take a nap...guys are oblivious sometimes and you have to show them what you want them to do for you, then tell them, then show them again haha


After two years, moving in may be a lot, but he should definitely be showing effort to see you more. Little things to get him more comfortable with you in his space doing what he already likes will help show him you care about him which will make him more comfortable. It will also show you how likely he is to commit to you. If he can’t even commit to a dinner one night a week after two years, it’s time for a more serious conversation with him.

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