Ugh…feeling stuck. I desperately want a new job cause the one I have now sucks, but if I stay for 3 more months, I get a $25,000 bonus. My boss makes me come in on Saturdays and I am so anxious I can barely sleep but I absolutely need this money to pay off my loans. How do I get through this?? 🙏🙏

Pray and leave it with the Lord

I say start your job search now that way in 3 months you may find a new job and I would definitely stay to get that bonus. It definitely seems like you've earned it. Take the money and RUN!

I don't want to presume a totally negative caricature of your boss. Have you spoken to your boss at all about these stresses? You say he makes you come in on Saturdays. Have you ever said no? If so, what happened? Is he threatening you with being fired or some other punishment?

I ask because often enough we don't know how to ask for what we want, and presume the answer is no, and blame the other person for us feeling stuck...when a conversation will set everything in flow again.

But for the moment I'll assume your boss is inflexible on this point. In which case the anxiety and stress it's creating for you is the issue. The question becomes how to manage the stress best. And there are two sources of stress: the week by week stress of coming in on the Saturdays, and the larger background stress of paying off your school loans.

One way is to quit. Would not be my first recommendation, but you've always got that ripcord to pull.

Another would be to flag some future Saturdays, that you cannot work. Lock those in now with him. The coming 3 months you have something like 12 or 13 Saturdays. Get on the calendar that 4 or 5 of those you are 100% unavailable. This might or might not work, depending on your circumstance, but it's a way of taking control back for your time. Saying no on Friday to coming in that Saturday is way harder than saying no to a Saturday three or eight or ten weeks away.

And of course, talk with him. Tell him you're stress level is exceeding your ability to sustain, you cannot work Saturdays, and is there some other accommodation that might work? Perhaps coming in an hour earlier Monday to Friday achieves the same end -- or maybe working an hour in the evening at home (if it's that kind of job). Presume good will and ask to collaborate on a solution.

Beyond that, I imagine the specifics of your job are important to know. Is this a permanent job or temporary? Is there a contract for your time? Is there an HR department that will back you up? Is there a union involved?

And if he is absolutely intractable about any changes, then decide if you can manage your stress through other means enough to get through these three months and get that bonus. Therapy, meditation, exercise, good sleeping habits. These 3 months will be a marathon, but if the payoff is worth it, been like a marathon runner you have to manage the unavoidable pain and discomfort as best you can.

And if it's not worth it, then start looking for something new right away.

Best of luck, however it turns out!

Think how long you'd have to work at a retail store to make twenty five thousand dollars. Twenty five thousand dollars is an awful lot of money. Everyone is different, but I can certainly tell you how I would hold off for 3 months as long as it's not life threatening. But that also tells me that this is not the right job for you. So it takes a long time to find a new job, so why don't you just put some feelers out, and that helps you realize that there's hope. Even if you were one of those very few lucky people who get a job within the first three months of looking, you could always tell them the job was contingent to stay a few weeks after you get your bonus. I mean, it's a no brainer, I can't believe that someone is asking that kind of question... Then again, everything is relative to each person

Ask yourself what will this $25,000 do for my life. If this money is life changing float through the next 3 months it's not that long. If this bonus isn't a big deal then go. Something to think about do you have another job to walk into if you quit this one. That's a big deal, even if there is a weeks difference that's cool but you need a another job first. Start looking that might help you mentally to get through these next 3 months.

Practice gratitude and write down 5 things you’re grateful for everyday to combat anxious thoughts:
(#5 is my favorite)

1. You have a job with income coming in.
2. You have a place to go and do your work. Showing up on Saturday might feel like a drag but, being forced to evacuate because of wildfires would be way worse.
3. You will receive $25K, what most might consider a “decent bonus” coming in after 3 months at a an unfulfilled job. Poor you, lol…
>> Make a 3-month plan of ACTION to pivot or change jobs. Better yet, find a career that would fill up your tank/ cup. Not sure where to start? Try to figure out WHY you feel this way, WHAT triggered the reaction, and WHERE you want to be. Then, go do it. <<
4. Do more things that bring you joy in other aspects of your life and focus on being grateful for the God-given life you get to live.
5. If you ever feel stuck in life and you don’t like where things are; then move. You are not a tree! 🌲🌴🌳

Hope this helps!

Stay until you get the bonus….

I feel your pain. Boss is an interesting person not very nice ask your opinion and then tells you to be quiet. They ask for stuff you give it to them then they say you did not. I have started giving her a copy and I make one and put the date I gave it to her on.
Wants to kick out older people, tax people who do it for free, a group I started (she did kick them out), she only wants things she likes not them long standing programs.
Then she wants me gone I have about 490 days til I can retire and I am staying just to piss her off.

I'm going through alot in the process of getting evicted. Looking for. A new job. I also have to go through a custody battle with my abusive ex. It's just been alot. At least I have thebjob even though we get paiid 14.50.

Stay and get the bonus. You have a paying job and only 12 Saturdays to work for the bonus and I doubt you’re working every Saturday.

People don't leave their jobs they leave their boss. In my experience once the executives start letting people go they are not far behind

Trust me, you want that $25k. If you leave they don’t give it to you and they laugh about it. Think about 3 months ago, it wasn’t that long ago, do things to make it go by faster, look forward to something idk. Think about 1 month ago, it’s not that long, now just do that 3 times and u get $25k

Focus in your main goal which is to get that bonus. Put your mind and thoughts on the prize.

I would definitely rough it out and put in my time for the bonus but on the same token I wouldn't just quit a week, a month or even two. I'd at least stick around for a little while after I received the bonus to at least to show and hold personally some integrity

Stop thinking negative, you can push thru 3 months, many people would LOVE to be in your position of a possible bonus that high …. That’s a down payment on a house baby! Stick -it - out ! It takes perseverance and patience which is such a deficient these days in workers but I know you can do it.

Your clue is right at the end of your post! LOL! Pray! God gives you no more than you can bear. You can do this!!

Start looking for something new. When you get far enough along in the process note you want to accept but you have a bonus paying out on x date of 50k and see if they match. They’ll maybe match, maybe they’ll come down to 30 or 25k. If so, accept and move on

Find another job that doesn’t require you to work Saturdays/ The Sabbath. It is better to keep Gods commandments and live than to disobey him for temporary financial Gain

Being the manager is probably why you are expected or called in to work on Saturdays it is understandable family time is important but when you are the one that has to over see the daily activities of a site unfortunately you must forego a certain amount of your family time. They say the grass is always greener on the other side and it is true as a landscaper i am never satisfied with my lawns they can always be better i am always thinking of ways to make them better and look better than any other lawn in the area. But I gotta tell ya there are people in desperate need of the privileges you have and how you are situated financially I'd stop complaining. But since it is your life by all means do whatever it is you think is best for you and good luck.

Talk with them.Let them know how you're feeling.Be honest in order to do your job right.You have to feel good about yourself and have energy and a clear mind To give your Best of your Work.

That's half of what I made in a year ... work is work get it done and go home leave work at work if you don't wanna be there don't but it sounds like a great opportunity with pay so I would stick it out for the money save up then leave

I want a job like that, so I can get a $25,000 bonus. What is the position? And what is he or she doing to you to make it so bad? I know money isn't everything but maybe pray and talk with him and see if he can help your situation? He is a good listener. Just saying...🙏🙏🙏