What fuels you more - when people doubt you or believe in you?

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Doubt me… I was told I was a diversity hire at my last job and in 10 months I was running laps around everyone who was there before me. Youngest person ever promoted (fresh out of college) and got promoted in 10 months when standard is a year to 18 months. I was the only woman and I started 6 months behind most of my “starting class” for that company. In college I was a finance major and all the guys in my group projects assumed it was just a minor. My whole life my grandmother told me I was “too pretty to do hard things”, but my mom told me I could do anything I wanted and I listened to her more. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 8 but before I was officially diagnosed my teacher told me I just wasn’t destined to be as smart as my older sister (who is boarder line genius) when I was frustrated with my success in school. I am stereotypically attractive and therefore people assume I’m not smart before I even open my mouth. I am used to the doubts, discrimination, dirty looks and whispers. You have to demand respect when you walk into a room and for women it’s about how you look, act and talk. We are judged much harder than our male counterparts and it sucks, but I now get a enjoyment out of proving people wrong. It bothers me a lot less than it did even 2 years ago because I chose to work in a male dominated field and I love my career.

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When they believe in me.

I'm a massive people person. . .to my detriment. Striving for betterment at the expensive of your personal peace of mind is so unhealthy and ultimately causes Burnout. Being fed doubt by your employer should not be the fuel that I need to be better. Having Said that, I love a good underdog story.

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I’m fueled more when people believe in me. It helps when others recognize my work because it validates what I’m doing and I become less doubtful of myself. I know it’s silly but yes. It gives me the motivation to succeed even more

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Doubt. I actually enjoy proving them wrong

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When I really want it. In the case where I’m somewhat relying on other people’s reaction, usually I’m not driven enough. And when I know I want and I can, other people’s opinion doesn’t really matter.

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This + doubt!

Believe

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Doubt me. I had a female partner tell me when I was struggling with the CPA exam that she “just didn’t see it happening for me” when I was leaving for another company. Not only did I pass the exam but I am now up for partner for next year.

I like to make people eat their words - motivates me to prove them wrong.

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Doubt, without a doubt.

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Doubt motivates me out of anger and spite haha. While believing in me gives me freedom to try new things and experiment knowing I’m trusted.

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I feel the same way!

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Doubt

Believe in me. I have a vision to live up to then; not something to disprove and I’d rather them be wrong… than them be disappointed.

Believe.

Believe

Doubt me

I fuel me I dont care what people think because when you do thats when you are wasting your time sorting through their opinions of YOUR LIFE..

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