Why are office managers nice during the hiring process, yet once in, they talk to you in a condensending way? Does anyone provide proper training anymore?

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They want someone to do the work so they don't have to. "You said you could do all this and then some in your resume!" "We are paying you a small fortune! We have no training budget! You should already know this!"

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No is the answer to your second question, and that includes training people on how to conduct the interviews/hiring process.

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Contextually they are different situations.

The hiring process is designed to gate access to employment with the company and determine the viability of a candidate for a specific role, while identifying if they are culturally a fit for the company. It is typically approached from the persuasive, “sales” oriented mindset of a subordinate who needs to prove something, than mutual evaluation of alignment between equals. The hiring process requires nothing more from you than to answer questions well enough. There are no stakes. There is no expectation to perform to any standard other than one that gets you the job.

Once hired, the expectation that you perform to company standards aligned with your stated competency in the role. Surely that’s expected, but the difference is that you are, now, competing for time and attention with your leader— who hired you to do a job.

The apparent difference in demeanour is likely the difference between 1:1 context of the hiring process and the reality of the working environment.

Are you being condescended to or is the manager communicating a standard you were unprepared for?

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In my most recent experience, management went from helpful to having me explain which Vendors I dealt with via reports 2 to 3 times a day. As I've dealt with vendors who were more difficult than this last job, It was offensive. If I can get vendors behind schedule to deliver products to Big Box vendors on time, why do they take all my delivery time increases for the smaller sized vendors I worked with as a negative? I'm disappointed that I'd get rewarded for efficiency & vendors service updates one day and end up excluded from in-house meetings with those Vendors, followed by Sr. Management requesrting my supervisor haul me in to HR for doing my job. I have 32 years of experience with this arena, but apparently I hurt their feelings for doing what I'm good at. That tells me management wasn't ready for my experience in Purchasing & Operations. I won't ignore my work background. I've had it with "you don't have a degree". If I can survive 14 rounds of company takeover layoffs, I must have a needed skill set. I no longer apologize for being proud of what I know.

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Good question

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This is so true not just in the week place but in many area's of life. Hr managers lie about the experience they hold, expecting everyone one else to do their work while they walk around fluffing their feathers pretending to be valuable to upper management. The truth is upper management know that they can't do their job but keep them anyways.

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