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Tom Morello just tweeted this.
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Ahh politics, I certainly don’t miss it 💅🏽 one of the best benefits to being completely off social media 😎
So I agree and my wife and I don’t have it, but when you’re own family is obsessed and makes it their life’s mission to tell you everything that’s wrong and how a politician is going to save your life at every get together, what do you do? I’m literally at the end of my tolerance level.
We just had a baby and live close to them. Before we had a kid, they kept their distance but now that they are over all the time, we’re both quickly realizing why they have damaged every friendship. It’s getting to the point where we are making excuses to come around them less. Is anyone else in this same boat? It’s such a shame but I think covid has exacerbated the issue.
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My parents are also becoming really angry for similar reasons. I think the covid madness caused a lot of anger and division on both sides. I’ve been able to snap them out of it by reminding them that we’ve been through several wars in the last century, recessions, and depressions and life has continued on. All you can do is be responsible and keep planning for the future/ living life, and politics aren’t really in your control beyond the way you vote every 2 or 4 yrs.
My parents and my in laws all mostly align politically, but all of their abilities to read a room and keep certain words to themselves has plummeted since they retired. It’s often embarrassing to be associated with. Old people just get weird when they get old. Living in the suburbs and not having any social interactions except for Facebook and the occasional family call certainly doesn’t help.
Omg are you me OP?! My in laws are exactly the same. They drive my husband insane bc they share the opposite political views. It's sad to see division for stupid politics that does absolutely nothing to our daily lives.
It’s not even that we share opposite views. They are actually outraged that we “have the audacity to just have an apathetic view towards politics in general”. So essentially, it’s a zero sum game with them. I mean, it’s almost comical at this point. Like, get a hobby, go travel post covid, start a new project. How does this much of ones time get solely devoted to just scrolling through political videos and Facebook feeds??
This is my mom. We are seeing her much less.
Regardless of politics, this seems more like a relationship issue your wife should handle (and you two should discuss to get on the same page). It's good to set boundaries. My wife and I have a yearly allotment system for family members. It's maybe a bit extra, but it works for us.
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Can you be honest with them and tell them that if they feel the need to discuss those things you’ll have to spend less time with them? Or make a rule for them not to discuss anything of that nature as long as they are with you?
Honestly, we’ve tried, and it offers no relief. I’ve pandered to the wife of just cutting them out, and that did not go over well. Just gonna hang tight until life runs it’s course. Terrible to think that way, but there’s just no other option.
I’m having the same experience and asking not to discuss politics is the only possible path to peace. Hard when it feels like watching Fox is their main hobby.
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Ouch. Can’t you use covid as an excuse to see them less? You can use this as an opportunity to reset the frequency with which you see them, and potentially expose yourself and your kid to their views.
I haven’t seen my in laws for almost a year due to COVID. No plans to meet up on the books.
Lol I wish we could still do that. My wife is a nurse and we told them they basically they weren’t going to see the baby if they didn’t get the vaccine. Well they broke down and got it, which was good. But it’s just spiraled so so bad since March. We live in the same suburb, and I work remotely so it’s just super tough to keep the excuses going.
Idk from experience so I’m sure I’ll sound ignorant...but have you tried talking to them and say “let’s hang out and talk about anything but politics?”
My problem is not exactly the same, but pretty close. My father in law is just blindly in love with Trump - not his political views, not the party, but basically just unconditionally loves him. Mind you, he is not even a citizen, has never been in the US, doesn’t really understand the system/politics here.
My husband and I just don’t talk about politics w him, so he just constantly comments and shares the posts/news on his social media.
He recently found a new hobby, and it got so much worse. It’s some crypto coin that is like a pyramid scheme - have nothing against his hobby or this coin specifically, but the constant messages and calls to make my husband “join the team for a miracle down the road” are exhausting. We got to the point where he used my husband’s phone number to sign up for this stupid thing without my husband’s consent - no idea how.
So far, we live in different countries, so I can’t even imagine living close to him.