WWYD? My partner wanted a pet but I did not. Partner got a cat anyways and now I feel resentful about partner’s lack of respect for my feelings in this. The cat wakes me up throughout the night bc of its meowing, “hunting moods”, and hunger, etc. that ONLY happens at night. Otherwise, I would never even know the cat is there. It’s affecting my sleep & I’m growing more resentful bc I never wanted to be a pet owner. How can I navigate this?

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I would be very seriously telling your partner that they need to figure out a way to keep the cat from waking you up all night. It's their responsibility.

Have they done something like this before? If so, a bigger picture conversation about trust may be in order.

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I'd end it, but I am militant against pets.

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Time to seriously evaluate this relationship.

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Do you live together? If so then it is messed up they got a pet even though you were against it. If not…well deserves a conversation but definitely within their rights to get a cat for their own space. Maybe they were hoping the cat would grow on you. Unfortunately not much you can really do about the cat waking you up. Try a white noise machine to mask the meows and close the bedroom door. Consider breaking up their meals so you feed a small portion right before bed. This is relatively normal behavior for cats so you kind of just get used to it.

My brother’s ex-wife did this over the course of their marriage with several dogs, rabbits, ferrets, you name it. I think it shows a serious lack of respect when you bring a pet into a shared home after your spouse expresses not wanting one.

Is this a fairly young cat? My partner reluctantly agreed to let me get two kittens, and they were bouncing off the walls at night during the adolescent phase. Luckily, they started to chill around six months or so.

If she is feeding the cat at a regular time, such as every morning, she should split their meals into half in the morning, and half before she goes to bed, so they aren't hungry overnight. If their stomach is full, hopefully they'll be less inclined to "hunt" and meow for attention because they'll be digesting.

Launch the cat out of an upstairs window. Problem solved.

That’s a big decision and doing that without agreement is a serious 🚩. I’m assuming you presented all the facts here.

Well, told my partner how resentful I feel and said partner picked the cat instead. Guess now I really know where I stand. Thanks everyone

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