I’ll start hooking up with someone with no intention of dating them because of red flags, but if the sex is good I want to lock it down for the future (even if we are not compatible in our personality, I’ll start to see them in a positive way and flirt more since it makes the sex even better)! The guy starts to think I want a relationship (which is half true) and then distances himself. Anyone else go through this cycle?

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I went through this cycle and dropped the guy. He came back to me next month and as much as it hurt to ignore him, it was the right thing to do. Anyone who doesn’t have the decency to explain themselves after sleeping with you repeatedly doesn’t deserve to be in your life. If you can’t communicate like an adult, you’re not worth my time. And FYI, I didn’t want a relationship.

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Also have done this before! He came back a month later and said how sorry he was for ghosting because he “felt awkward” but enjoyed the sex and wanted to hang out. So immature. I told him I was no longer interested because I feel the same as you. If you’ve seen me naked....at least give me the time of day to communicate properly.

Why not be open about not wanting a relationship? I would guess that the guy would usually be ok with it?

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Normally I leave it unspoken, but the last time I did explicitly say I wanted casual only. But if I was a little flirty outside of sex or even curious about his day, it would make him closed off. He told me it felt like it was getting emotional and he couldn’t do it, even though we never talked about anything deep. Mostly small talk. All I wanted was a solid fwb/hookup without having to act cold hearted. Would make the sex way more desirable.

Haha damn sounds like something I would do or have done

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