Women in Law

Are you guys scared/ nervous these days? I have anxiety, so I can’t always trust my feelings, but I feel like I’ve been carrying a weight these past few months.

Ladies, I need some basic life advice from other attorneys! How many days maximum would you be willing to host a close friend (someone who would be in your bridal party) at your place?

Should I include the fact I’m covering for a colleague on paternity leave in my request for additional compensation? I won’t be taking a maternity leave and it’s a lot of extra work on top of my workl… more

Do you have any yoga mat recommendations for prenatal yoga and using the mat with a yoga ball?

Anyone in biglaw make a lateral move in their third trimester? I’m 20 weeks now, but since my first round interview is tomorrow, I’m assuming the process would take a while. Feels weird to leave the… more

I had 18 weeks maternity leave and have 8 weeks left. I know I still have quite a bit of time, but I am already feeling a little anxious at the idea of going back to work and leaving my baby at home. … more

For a first time mom, is 6 months maternity too long? Our firm offers 4 months paid and then was planning to use STD for the remainder. Due end of June, so was planning to return right at the new year… more

When people say “document everything” in workplace sexual harassment situations, what do they mean and is there a proper way to maintain these records?

Would you lateral from an AM100 to a AM50 as a senior associate while also trying to get pregnant? Is there any hope that partnership is possible?

Is it unprofessional to not wear makeup? I have a hard time getting up in the morning so I tend not to.

I lateraled to my current form as a second year and 6 months after that I went on maternity leave. I came back to work in February 2025. In September I had my end of year review, which was sort of mix… more

Has anyone received accommodation for going through IVF (like working remotely, etc.)? Would love to hear about your experience. Im nervous to start IVF soon.

Pumping moms - do you pump in your office or the nursing/mothers room? My office locks so I could pump there, but the nursing room has a sink so that’s my preference. The issue is other people (assist… more

Trial packing question: I have a short bench trial coming up. We will be prepping witnesses in the evenings after trial. Should I prepare to wear my suit for those preps, or do people like to get comf… more

family law solicitor recommendations in London? I’m looking to get a prenup in place. SO and I are both international so want to get ahead of jurisdictional issues.

Defense counsel. Will be trying a case at ~32 weeks pregnant. Two questions.

1. Where am I getting suits?
2. How does pregnant lawyer play with the jury?

Those of you who work with weird men, what are you wearing to work?

I started at a new firm and work with a counsel who makes me uncomfortable. Nothing egregious, just a few comments here or there, but I want to avoid the at… more

Im pregnant with my first (~14 weeks)! I’m based in DC (glover park) and my out of state family has been saying I need to get day care sorted now. I was wondering if there were any DC based attorneys … more

Where does everyone buy work clothes? I’m 4 months postpartum and everything I currently own makes me cry so I need a shopping spree.

I’m not happy at my current firm. I have a few interviews lined up in the next week or two. I’m not worried about landing a position. I have good work experience and am a solid interviewer. I’m just a… more

Anyone breastfeed (not pump) while working from home? How do you manage? Going back to work in a couple of weeks and can't imagine how I'll get any work done. Baby is constantly feeding and wa… more

How do you hit 2000 hours with kids?

Just came back from mat leave and am having some serious tailbone pain sitting in my office desk chair all day, I am thinking it is related to things shifting postpartum. Any recommendations for chair… more

Looking for a little treat and considering upgrading my work bag to something nicer. Any suggestions? I don’t like loud logos or anything flashy.

How do you conceal your morning sickness at work? I work in-house in an open floor plan. I'm required to be in office 3x per week. This morning I've been gagging a lot and feeling nauseous all around. I w… more

Thoughts on Lewis Brisbois, medical malpractice department? LA area. I’m aware of the scandal they had, but wanted to see if there was more insight. TIA!

Have any of you struggled with comparing yourself to others? Any advice on how to stop that?

I got hit with a lot of personal and professional setbacks this year. Overall, I’m grateful to have survived… more

Does anyone have advice for finding an accountant?

Babymoon recommendations?

How are we paying nannies these days?

My boss is asking every attorney to set a billable goal for the first quarter and asking what he can do to support us. On a scale of 1-10, I'm an ADHD 11 with a healthy dose of anxiety, so I appr… more

Any referrals for a family law attorney in St. Louis? Divorce involving a small child. Looking to move quickly. TIA!

My omp out of nowhere announced 5 days a week in the office starting Monday. While I believe in facetime, policies like these are so rough as a working mom. Even if you “come to an arrangement” it und… more

Anyone who has frozen their eggs has a baby from that in this group? I know several who have from frozen embryos but not eggs.

Associate on a PIP — can I realistically survive?
Still getting new cases, some good feedback, wrote my own plan, and my mentor is supervising it.

Do you guys have both a primary care doctor and an ob/gyn? I’ve always used my ob as my primary care doctor to manage conditions like asthma. But I recently moved and my new ob said I need a separate … more

Ladies who got married in their thirties, how did you handle finances after getting married?

How is everyone handling their Woman’s groups or Women’s professional development programs being cut, if they are? To “minimize risk” my firm has terminated all these programs that made me so happy to… more

Looking for ideas for hobbies / art / music . I do not find myself “artistic” nor “musical” but I’d like to find an art form to get into on the weekends and after work. I recently feel a lacking and longing… more