25 y/o female, only 3.5 years into consulting and can’t see myself doing this forever, rising the ranks and making partner. I feel like a failure/loser for wanting to stoop beneath my potential and exit the rat race at such a young age. Already looking to pivot, but no idea where to go. I’m in change/transformation/strategy so no technical skills. I enjoy helping people be their best (coaching / program management / talent optimization type work). Sad that my only skills are soft skills. Ideas?

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In a similar place (don’t want to push to partner), but in my 30s...

First thing is you’re not a loser... it takes maturity and perspective to make decisions on your own terms. Live your life how you want to live it.

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These days I seem to be numb to all the deliverables because they pushed me so hard that I don’t react anymore 😢🙃😊

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I agree w others there are lots of things that would likely fit you that are outside of consulting and challenging yet balanced and stimulating. My mom is in leadership at a Fortune 500 and (although it can be a tough schedule now that’s she’s at the top) for most of her career it has been pretty balanced. She has also found it really rewarding and been able to make more “strategy” decisions than any consultant I’ve ever met and also learned to pour into and manage people well, as well as develop like 400 other skills. Point is - industry and all kinds of other paths can be super rewarding.

I once read something that said you hit the lottery if you actually end up in the right career/job for you before at least 10 years in. This career counselor said it takes most people 10 years to figure out what’s out there, what they like and don’t like, and develop the required skills to get into what they like. They said you’re 1/100 or maybe even more, if you’re even close to where you want to be before 30-35. So take that to heart - you should be exploring at this phase and shouldn’t have it all figured out. Don’t be scared to do informational interviews w people in professions you’re thinking about, and take a risk to try something new.

Also, unless you’re súper status or lifestyle focused, at some point the money doesn’t matter too much between jobs/career paths so long as you can live the life you want. Like I can pay my mortgage, food, for my entertainment and gym and trips, as well as savings and 401k comfortably now. Not rolling my any means but it’s enough. And $20k more (or even $100k) is not actually going to make me any happier. Those first few jobs and pay bands the increases did feel like they mattered a lot since you are bringing home less overall to cover your basics but at some level I don’t think it matters so much if you live a modest lifestyle. Realize that later in your career you’re likely to care less about arbitrary money differences and more about WLB, what you’re doing, work culture. (I do find consulting much more rat race oriented in culture, which is one reason I got out last year and this seems to be one of the things you don’t like either)

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Spot on about how happiness from money is very incremental. I remember seeing my first paycheck at a new job with a 200k base (coming from 130k) and tbh wasn’t any happier. I chased the money and it didn’t lead to anything but more anxiety and stress.

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When I was 25 y/o or 3.5 years into my career, I haven’t even thought about what’s next.
15 years in, I still haven’t. Just enjoy the present.

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Thanks for the reminder. I’m always thinking 10 years ahead when I could drop dead tomorrow.

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Why not try HR at a tech firm? Sounds like you’d be qualified and like the content and pace a bit more.

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Very true, been thinking about development programs!

OP, you sound like someone who jumped right into consulting right from school and has been always been told how “prestigious” it is.

Leaving consulting is NOT “stooping” beneath your potential - however, I’m sure that may feel like it given what you’ve been taught. There are tons of other roles that are challenging and interesting and also require talent and intellect. Please don’t let this thinking hold you back! Am sure you’ll find that there have been lots of people who have left without second guessing this decision.

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I’m 30 y/o and post MBA. Similar to you, I also have no idea what kind of role I would go into post consulting. I feel like being a jack of all trades, but master of none won’t do me any favors if I’m looking to exit to a role with similar compensation.

I’m hoping a promotion and more tenure will lead to more headhunters reaching out.

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Yep this is me too. Measuring yourself by sponsors isn’t about idea like C2 said but yeah you run into problems when there’s a big salary gap. Also, doesn’t help when the client is the government and I’m trying to leave that world altogether fml.

Me too!! I didn’t realize it’d blow up. Thank you ALL I definitely feel less insecure / uneasy now 😊

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I’m 25 - I’ve been in consulting for 2 years and I know for a fact I won’t be here more than 3-4 more years. I am heavily investing my money into real estate now so I can pursue it full time. I don’t have the time to deal with the job and clients. I don’t care to be a manager, partner, etc. Just saving up my money so I can comfortably exit and be on my own terms.

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Share some insights on how or what you are investing in.... i want some inspiration and knowledge

I wish I had this insight few years back, I finally realized that consulting is soul sucking and not worth it unless you see yourself as partner. I have been trying to find industry job in banking or tech but this year has been incredibly difficult

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When I was your age, I had been with Deloitte Consulting HK, and after a lot of restructuring and a project that I was on for over a year with no way out (it was a 3rd party review on a major construction programme for a client zzzzz I'm not an auditor!!), it eventually drove me to seek new opportunities. What I did in the end was go over in-house to get more industry experience. I went to a global insurer's local office in HK from a Consultant to a Senior Business Analyst. It was both the right and wrong decision because A) it made me more aware of what I liked and not liked, B) I found my way back into Consulting but with an industry experience in the operations side to give me an advantage.

Funny though, even as I type this I'm no longer into insurance and trying to go into consumer goods/ retail, so as a 30 year old, 5 years hasn't changed much for me - I'm still looking for that right job.

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Don't go into HR. Too many women (and I'm a woman).

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Ughhh that’s where I was considering. Not a functional HR role but something in program or leadership development?

You are not alone

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I love this thread

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Hi! also 25 y/o female but with 2 years and experiencing the same feelings! Sorry no advice to offer, but I️ appreciate you sharing :)

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