Anyone else feels like we are inundated with content about how to sustain relationships but there’s a significant lack of content around how to date and actually start a new relationship? It may just be my perception but more of us are single today and becoming complacent with that reality despite acknowledging that it’s making us deeply lonely and perhaps functionally depressed, and breaking out of this new comfort zone really seems to be what we need. Thoughts?

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Absolutely agree with these sentiments. Accepting it as reality and living ‘the solo life’, while great in some ways, doesn’t come without loneliness. Even harder in this age range to have other single friends join (because some have kids).

Hearing more about the kind of content you suggest would actually be more helpful. No one talks about how hard it is to get used to a relationship again and all the associated lifestyle adjustments. You get into a routine while single and that gets “disrupted” once you’re with someone. It may be hard for one or both people when starting a relationship.

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There’s content on how to start one from the “relationship therapists” on Instagram. They focus on how to build a connection and checking in with yourself. Part of building a relationship is acknowledging your own feelings. Your post and what I’ve noticed from a majority of perennial singles is an assumption that everyone is feeling a certain way, which I think is a way of dismissing the right to have your own feelings versus owning them. If you feel lonely or depressed with dating, then I’d encourage you to learn how to unpack and sit with your feelings. Learn what they stem from and get the tools to create your own happiness. A relationship is not going to make you happy if you’re sad or lonely on your own.

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You’ve made a ton of assumptions there, C1. I’ll just leave it there.

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