Anyone ever feel like their job made them mask so hard they can't unmask after work. Idk what happened, but Booz Allen was the one to be able to finally break me. Never thought it could happen, but I think it made me socially neurotypical. I not only don't overshare, I don't like sharing about anything when I meet new people or friends for years. I don't make jokes anymore. I'm always thinking of the most appropriate neutral thing to say at parties. The mask is now permanent. Beware neurodivergs

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I had the same problem. Work version of me was influencing my regular personality! My new employer Lumon has done a great job at helping me detach from work. It’s like I don’t even remember work!

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You don’t have people giving you guidance. Work is just work. You don’t have to “mask”, just do your work. When you finish work, close that door and relax. I know work is important but only because it’s income and something hopefully intellectually interesting. “Masking” is just a made up word.

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No offense, but I am assuming you're probably not a nuerodivergent and don't understand what masking is

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Consulting will do that to a mfer. Same thing happened to me.

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And yet it's like the nuerotypicals can still tell there's something not quite right about me. Like it's that game where you're trying to find out who the outsider is.

So now it's just me being a boring nueordivrrgrnt who still is not hitting the 100% mark at blending in.

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Couldn’t agree more. It really is so unfortunate, giving up what makes you, YOU for folks that will never accept you regardless

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Booz is like a cult -- so glad I left.

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This is a nuerodivergent thing

Mmmm.... wut?!??!

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I got super aggressive and controlling to the point where my sweet grandma told me that she did not like my personality, definitely does creep into personal life

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For sure work me is boring as hell and now I'm doing it myself.

Also going through this feeling at Deloitte, you’re not alone my friend

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Good to know!! Thank you

I’ve been at Booz Allen for 20 years and in a senior role. I have ADHD (diagnosed) and have 2 kids with ASD and ADHD and so probably have some ASD too. I think it really depends on what team/client/market you are in. I’ve actually found BAH to be way, way more accepting than my other previous employers. That said the social battery drain is real and between work and parenting it’s a lot. But the masking from work for me is not the issue. It sounds like you might just be working with jerks.

Eh I don't think they're jerks. Maybe my ADHD is just higher. I mean I have to mask around friends too that haven't known me for years. My ADHD could just go harder. Or I mean no one csn be their true self at work so maybe I just don't fit in in general so I have to hide my entire personality

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