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I’m tired today. Can I just take the front wheelchair parking?
Or that corner office! My status doesn’t qualify me but I love the view so…. It should be mine
I think I saw something about you possibly adopting. I adopted and was able to take the leave offered for new parents at my company. I could have taken the full fmla leave running concurrently. The only rough part for me was we had to wait until the adoption was final and that was at 16 months. My husband had paid leave for children entering our home for adjustment so he took time at both the birth and final adoption.
You had to wait until finalization? I am so sorry that’s a crappy policy.
Considering how hard women have to fight for time off after creating and birthing a human, I can't think of a single positive thing to say to you.
@bank of America1 that’s like saying no one died but I still want to use my bereavement time.
I can’t physically have children. We are planning to adopt, but I’m not sure that would be covered.
adoption is covered under fmla in the states but if your company doesn’t pay maternity leave you will go unpaid unfortunately
May not be “maternity” leave but I believe companies like mine offer the same benefit (16 weeks) for other family emergencies as well (e.g. caring for an ailing parent etc.)
If it makes you feel better, baby isn’t even here yet and I’ve suffered more in pregnancy than I ever have in my job
They said “never plan on having children?” Adopting = having children
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The missing context is that OP was planning to adopt.
Almost all companies nowadays will count that bonding time under parental leave. Talk to your hr about what that would look like.
The question was posed in a confusing way. It’s silly to request that time if you actually weren’t doing any family planning stuff. Most people thought you just wanted ad hoc time off just because. That’s like taking FMLA just for the heck of it because it’s part of your benefit package. Those benefits are there to help you grow within and outside of the company; not necessarily always an entitlement (unless you negotiated something really specific).
I’m an adoptive mom x2. When we adopted my company had NO adoption benefits and I had to use PTO, however now days most companies have an adoption policy in place so check with you’re benefits team. Additionally, if the adoption leave is significantly different from paternity leave, I would ask why. The Dave Thomas Foundation was very helpful in getting benefits in place at the company I was at during our adoptions.
If you want to talk with someone who has been through it, please feel free to message me directly. It’s a journey, especially if you’ve already done fertility. I’m happy to share my experiences and support you however I can! It’s a beautiful way to build a family and I wouldn’t change a thing nearly 20 years after my first adoption!
Why do you think you should be entitled to this for any other circumstance?
I believe this tool does not allow to fix the original question after it has engagement. But I am glad you at least posted as a question other than jump the gun as some other folks did with nasty comments. Ppl are way faster to react negatively than positively nowadays or to even consider there is a possible misunderstanding.
Good luck with your adoption. I heard that the road is long but worth it.
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You spoke above about adopting. My company gives 12 weeks of caregiving leave for major events like the adoption of a child.
My mind went way too far now. So for the benefit of doubt, we would like you to elaborate more on your question.
Where are you going to be a surrogate for somebody else’s child?
The audacity to even ask this question.
Really? I disagree. Why should parents get special treatment not extended to others? Having a baby is a a choice, little different than going on FMLA for cancer.
Not sure why you want maternity leave if children aren’t involved. I don’t think you can have access to something you aren’t really participating in.
Look up some HR videos on how to request a job related stress leave. 12 weeks FMLA.
And you clearly missed MY point. It had nothing to do with adoption or what the OP said. My last comment was for the nasty commenters that were so worried someone may get the same benefit they were entitled to. It was specifically addressed to them, I'll assume you missed that part, as well as the last bit where I said not to bother disagreeing with me because I wasn't planning on returning to this post, however when someone so egregiously misses my point, occasionally I feel the need to clarify. But I'm not interested in engaging any further on it so these are my parting words: I said what I said. Take out of it what you will, or disregard it entirely, it matters none to me.
With the new ADA new law you can say you are pregnant and take days off. When you call in for work, just say it’s related to the pregnancy.
Adoption is covered at my company. Family planning.