Coming from a family of immigrants and being one yourself, does anyone ever feel a sense of guilt with your success/salary versus your family members? If so, how have you dealt with this? Any suggestions on how to deal with it internally and emotionally?

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Nope! I busted my butt off to get where I’m at as did my parents. My family members doing poorly are because of bad life choices and not unfortunate circumstances.

Did we all grow up extremely poor with little resources? Yes... but that’s not an excuse. We’re in the US, you want something work your butt off

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I lie about my salary, tbh. Growing up, my household earning were about 25k. Luckily, my siblings have better earnings than my parents but I still try to keep within a limit that is palatable to them. I try not to talk about money or brag about flashy things. Luckily, that’s not my type of personality anyway so it helps.

Also, their households are single earning households vs. me and my partner who are two income households so there are obvious differences.

Do you feel guilty because you see yourself happier than your family members with less success and money?. Im also an immigrant and i have family members with less success and less income but i never felt guilt before. I actually envy them because they are never worry about money and they are the happier than me....they live stress free and they are happy just to have food on the table. For my siblings im an inspiration and an example that there are ways to make your life easier whether you choose to go to school or not. I have an entrepreneurialship spirit and i provide tips on what tube video to watch to learn new things and apply it in a new business model as little as them prepping ice cream and selling it for profit. Everyone started somewhere. I recommend following Jay Shetty

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