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You can always seek feedback. It's a scary thing to do, but asking them to provide feedback that is clear, specific and actionable might help you identify what they seem not to be getting from your work. It will either identify areas for you to improve, or it will force the issue: they can't really give you specific, actionable feedback, and they are just being subjective and choosing favorites. Either way, it will help you decide whether to work to improve or possibly start creating an exit strategy.
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Sounds like you should probably look for a new job because you’re being softly pushed out. Sorry this is happening to you.
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If it’s seriously impacting your health look into short term leave options, gotta take care of yourself first. Hope it gets better!
Keep sharing your opinions. Keep plussing up your partner’s ideas. Do try to see if there’s something you can learn from your partners’ suggestions or build on them.
Also, try to silence that voice in your head that says you’re competing and losing. It’s hard to be present and succeed when you’re keeping score, being competitive will just make you anxious and crazy, and it’s highly unlikely your CD is measuring you against your partner. Don’t listen to the idiots who say you’re being pushed out. If it’s killing your confidence or is a bad fit, leave. But don’t let your ego rule you.
I get it. Us creatives very often have RSD. It’s a subjective and stressful business. But it’s just as likely that your CD validates your partner because they think women need more support, or they aren’t thinking at all. My partner thinks like this and it’s turned them into an absolute crazy person. Don’t be like that. Fear is the mind killer.
Nah, quite the opposite. If you grow up with ADHD or perfectionist parents, you become one because you get corrected a lot and feel like a failure. You scan for threats, you internalize shame easily. The same pattern recognition that helps you make creative connections easily will always leap five steps forward and tell you that your boss hating your idea means they have you means you will be fired soon. It’s a defense mechanism that is more rooted in brain chemistry than environment, but it’s deeply unhelpful.
What if you’re the problem? Imagine your partner is on another post complaining about having to carry the weight of your team and change stuff to make them sellable and this is all just one big misunderstanding. You should talk to them directly and see how it goes.
Def not trying to make that sellable, quite the contrary…
Ultimately there’s two paths here.
You adapt or eject.
Eject is the immediate protection of yourself but you will likely be missing out on some learning here, and obviously requires another job and partner elsewhere.
Adapt, I’d advise, is the first port of call. Because as other comments are alluding to…you should probably work out how much of this is in your head. As the old adage goes - nobody is thinking about you as much as you are. It could be that the CD and your partner have similar ways of thinking so it’s an easier bonding. It could be that your partner is excited about the positive encouragement and is getting ahead of themselves that their pov is bang on.
Hard to say without being there - but TLDR, take a breath whenever you’re wound up and try to play along. Still share your thoughts, but try to riff and go with the flow. Don’t put too much life or death right or wrong binary on it all. See where things go. For now.
CD playing favorites. A tale as old as time. Sorry to hear that’s happening. There’s not much to do beyond talking to you’re partner if you feel comfortable, pushing through and using it to get better, or looking for a new opportunity in the building or elsewhere.
You should really try evaluate your own performance. It's easy to try and blame everyone else for "not getting it", but when you're the outlier and everyone including your partner, your boss and your coworkers don't think that your work is good, maybe its because your work isn't good. It may be a hard pill to swallow, but try and objectively see what others are doing that you aren't.
Also, what "sells" and whats "good" are not the same thing. You mentioned that you need to fix work to make it "sellable". That's probably the quickest way to get fired and could be a reason by your boss does not like your ideas.
Their point is that if you think your partner is making the work less “sellable” but your boss likes their builds, they must be adding some other value. Oftentimes, the things that make work interesting, spiky or good are the opposite of what will make it easy to buy.
But this is all hard to answer in a vacuum. This biz is so subjective. But the point is that if your boss likes your partners’ ideas, come up with similar suggestions. The issue may not be that they like your partner more, but that your partners’ POV aligns with theirs.
Another avenue is to also talk to your CD directly. Assuming they’re also your manager, set it up as a learning experience and see what your CD is looking for in terms of craft. I had a similar experience as you early in my career so during a 1:1, I probed a bit. I found out I wasn’t crystallizing my ideas enough, which lead to them being dismissed.
This is the answer.
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I’ve noticed this happening before. More often than not, it’s because the person in your position is not as good as they think they are. Might be time to do some self evaluation.
Yeah and not even recommended people - thankfully this is a paradise of the smarts like yourself
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Sorry this was meant to post as a response to the question of what is RSD not some blanket reply to accuse your whole post as an example of it
Sometimes people don’t realise what they’re doing or how it makes you feel. I would talk to your partner, you should find support there, and if you don’t then they aren’t the partner for you.
What are the demographics in this situation? Gender? Ethnicity? Age? … sorry but this can be a major factor and can give more context.
And the only solution is to quit or ask to move internally? Think I might have already upset someone calling that out before even realizing…
Get rid of her. Immediately. It’s not a good fit and she sounds like a twit.
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