Do you ever regret pursuing the life of a soldier?

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Sadly, I do... I joined as soon as I turned 18 to "give my life meaning". I'm 30 now, suffering from PTSD, and I've told my children to never follow in my footsteps, it's not worth it in my opinion.

I would never regret the path I chose. If I chose it it's because it was my decision at one point. I cannot blame old me for my current wishes, because people change and it's a part of life. I'm just sailing smoothly until I am discharged hah

Sometimes I do, I'm not going to lie. Worst time of my life was deployment, it was vile and cruel and I gained an anxiety disorder because of that. I saw so many things I never thought I'd see. I'm back home and working on myself to get better.

I guess yes and no, I learned important lessons and made close bonds with people there but my psyche suffered quite a bit for my time there

Sometimes I wonder about what my life could've been otherwise but we all have to live with the choices we've made

Only regret is not enlisting earlier.

No. But would I want this life for my kid? Also no.

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