For creative moms out there— does anyone have a partner that is “always on”? He’s available in the Middle of the night, during my kid’s bedtime, early morning, is always answering emails first, always willing to jump in a call, anytime available to do a quick deck. It’s making me feel out of the loop, like a slacker and I just can’t keep up. I’m a new mom. Is this a normal experience? Am I thinking too much about it?

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Ohhh haha. Sorry. Well, in that case, I hope he’s being kind about it? Life happens. People need to deal with it. You’ll be back on form soon enough! Be kind to yourself!

It sounds like he needs to get a life. Who wants to live like that!?

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Maybe he has ADHD …

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Sounds like he’s able to be ‘always on’ because you’re not. Unfortunately this is the gender norm… still. But I wouldn’t focus on comparing yourself; you’re doing the most important job there is. Maybe he needs to join you more on the parenting journey!

Yep. This is a thing. I’m at a startup where many of my peers are 5-10 years younger, no kids. I used to feel like a geriatric slacker, but only recently (kids are 6 & 8) have I noticed that I don’t give a s* anymore. That’s right, you answer that email free-wheeling coworker — one of us was up from 2-4a being screamed at and wiping butts and one of us was not. This is my life right now, these are my kids, and the demands on my time are different. You take 4 days off for Burning Man, I spread that time over my week for an equally immersive experience, sans desert camping and psychedelics.

Some days, I feel like I’ve already experienced an entire day of trials and tribulations before I even open my computer. If we could only keep our shoes by the door, I feel like this wouldn’t be such a frequent occurrence …

All said, it’s completely normal to feel like this, it just takes time (years, for me) to realize how much society’s gender norms play into our perceptions of success and performance, and to reject that as reality. Hang in there, you’re providing value, too.

And your coworker sounds annoying. Give him the busy work. 😂

Ughhhh this is what I needed. Yes!! ❤️❤️❤️

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