How do you balance your social life with work? I feel like all my non-law friends are out doing shit every night and living it up on the weekends and I just can't. I'm either working or I'm tired from working. How can I set better boundaries about working outside of work, and where do y'all get the motivation to be outside after work 😭

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Girl I work, go home and go to the gym so your guess is as good as mine! When I was a 1st year it was a little easier to find time, but yeah I feel old as hell especially on the weekends. I'm tired!

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Don't put too much pressure on yourself. I used to feel the same way, until I started carving out one night per week that is just for me. (Saturday happens to work best, but you can choose whatever you prefer.) That is the night I make plans to go out, or sometimes just stay in and have a relaxing evening with no work. It's challenging, but you have to find a way to make it work.

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I set up an automated message for me email that activates when it's past my work hours. Whenever I receive emails beyond 4PM, they don't notify until 6AM the following day. It's a great way to keep your mind off of work because out of sight, out of mind. I've also told everyone at work about this and I haven't heard any complaints regarding it and a few have even followed suit.

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I love this idea

I'm almost a fifth year and I haven't figured it out. I think it will be better when I go down to 70-80%.

It is hard! Sometimes you have to pick and choose. You can set boundaries, but it isn't easy because the industry already has some set expectations.

Honestly, I don't think I am doing a good job with this. I am always so busy but I make sure to show up and catch up with my friends. I just couldn't do spontaneous hangouts.

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