Here's a confession

In my 1.5 years of unemployment heres what I learned.

Always remember those who tried to help (especially the complete strangers), but never forget the close ones that didnt even respond to a reach out.

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When you’re down - it’s never who you expect when it comes to support and real help. Good luck through it until the next stop!

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Ive never been put in a situation where I needed to tap on peoples shoulders for any kind of serious help, so here I am learning a very interesting lesson in life. What you said.

Thanks P1. I hope you never end up in my shoes.

Over the years my role has been eliminated due to reorgs. I've always been able to find a new role through my network.

The last one of these I went through was the most surprising. I had people I hadn't even talked to in a decade that used to be on my team reach out to me and let me know what an impact I had had on them and their career and offer to help me.

It was honestly one of the most touching and humbling things that has happened to me.

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Good for you VP1

What’s the context - How did you reach out to them with your needs, did you ask for a referral for a specific job ID at their company? Or did you make a general ask?

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It’s funny. During quarantine so many previous co-workers who were laid off reached out to me and I did everything possible to help them land freelance and full time jobs.

When I was laid off 3 years later and reached out, a little over half of them couldn’t even be bothered to respond. 90% of those left my message on “read.”

I kept a list of their names and did the exact same to them when they reached back out to me after getting let go following a major holding company acquisition.

Petty? Sure. But f’em.

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If i show you the amount of ppl i referred, helped, and opened doors for, you won't believe what i'm going through

I dont even need to write down their names. I knom them all by heart

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Why did you get let go 1.5 years ago?

Possibly, lets see

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